I am 24 and never had a boyfriend and I'm worried.

posted 2 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 46
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

mmmmm1992 :  Yo, serious question, do you think he will have to trade some livestock for her since she isn’t used up?

Theoretically, how many goats would that be? OP you might be able to get a good deal out of this. Or at least a few fresh hamburgers. 

Post # 47
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Busy bee

I just turned 33, I can tell you one thing – the people I dated back when I was in my early twenties would not be men I would be interested in now.

Post # 48
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

My BFF is 30 and has never had a boyfriend.  I’ve known her for over half of her life and though she’s been attracted to guys and been out on dates, she hasn’t found a guy she wants to be her boyfriend.  And that’s ok!  She has her own priorities in life and a guy hasn’t fit into those priorities.  She once told me about a first date where the guy was asking about kids, settling down, and if she would fit into his “plan” ON THE FIRST DATE.  She said nooooope and never looked back haha.

I was also a late bloomer.  First kiss and boyfriend at 21, dated him for 3.5 years.  I dated another guy for 6 months, I dated another guy for 2 months.  I met my husband at age 25, married at age 27.  And I kissed A LOT OF FROGS in between haha.  I’ve been on a lot of first dates, and a handful of second dates, but not many third dates.  I put myself out there and was willing to go on a lot of dates.  I don’t necessarily think that’s necessary for everyone but if you decide to online date, it will be a numbers game.  Husband and I met on OkCupid!

Post # 50
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Worker bee

angelhassan :  I would definitely consider a dating app if you’re shy. It can be a little easier to talk to people and get ot know them before a first date that way. I met mine through one. His brother also met his wife that way smile

Post # 53
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2017

First of all. Dont let others to interfere your judgement. If you don’t feel that way, then don’t do it. Why dating a guy you don’t like? Why it is always wrong to say “I’m not ready?” Some people sound feminist but they are really not. Guys always want to sleep around, and once they did, they high five. Seldom do they care about what you are thinking.

You are just not met “the one” yet, don’t push yourself. Open yourself to others doesn’t mean open your legs. Talk to more people, involve in different cultres, you may find yourself a new world.

Society is being so harsh to girls who don’t date many, like girl were born to sleep with guys. It’s not. We are born to please ourselves. Get to know yourself, talk to people, then choose what you want.

Post # 54
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2017

slomotion :  Also, so sorry you can only think about sth savage.

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

mmmmm1992 :  You disgust me. How do you think women who have been raped might feel reading your comments? I have slept with only my husband. I completely disagree with everything you’ve said. I also don’t think you should be calling others not evolved as your grammar and spelling abilities leave much to be desired. 

Post # 56
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

stressedlady :  

Yup.  Exactly what I did when I was single.  It was great fun. You may even find a good friend or two along the way.

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: City, State

I’ve only had my first boyfriend when I was 26 and we broke up a few months later. Prior to that, I didn’t date anyone either. Like you, I was pretty worried because I never seem to be able to meet anyone. My friend told me to put myself out there because I was too passive and introverted, so I decided to have an open mind and tried some a dating app, and went for some mingling sessions. I didn’t meet the right one but I tried to grow a thicker skin and improve my socialising skills.

After a while I gave up on dating apps because it wasn’t working for me. I was still very busy at work and had no time to meet anyone. Eventually I tried a language learning app and I met my second boyfriend at 28 years old. I’m now going on 31 and we will be getting married soon. 

If I could advise my 24 year old self, I would encourage her to not worry about dating yet and focus on building more experiences and investing in self-enrichment! You definitely still have time! All the best!

Post # 59
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2019

bridetobe2018 :  a spreadsheet for dating, oh man, that’s totally something I would have done 😂😂 how did I not think of that back in the day?!?

Post # 60
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

You have plenty of time! I dated some in high school and had one (quite crappy! lol) boyfriend in college. I did do some casual dating after college, but I’m more of a relationship person so that just kind of left me feeling empty and unhappy. I didn’t have my first “serious” relationship until I was about 26. I almost don’t even count the small relationships I had before that. I only just got married last year at 31. I was fairly shy too until the last couple of years, and had wondered if I had missed out as well. But looking back, I am SO glad I didn’t end up with the guys I was interested in when I was younger. Your taste in men will likely change as you get older. Don’t tie your self worth with whether or not you’ve dated anyone. In all honesty, I kind of wish I hadn’t dated at all during my college years. Most of the guys at that age just waste your time and emotions. You really aren’t missing out on anything by not having dated to this point. You’ve only missed out on the heartbreak, which I wish I would have avoided. I know our culture teaches that you have to date lots of guys to know which one is “the one”. I don’t personally agree with this. The man of your dreams could be the first guy you date or the second, not necessary #100 down the line. You don’t have to go through a lot of crappy relationships to appreciate or recognize a good man. I also find that getting into too many relationships, especially serious ones, can be damaging to your future relationship with your husband. Going through multiple serious relationships causes emotional baggage and issues a lot of times, like it or not. You are actually quite smart and lucky to be in your situation! Just relax and keep your eyes peeled. 🙂

Post # 61
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

mmmmm1992 :   At least I don’t just sleep around like I’m a slut.   Ooooh Burn!!  But really, if I wanted to hear from an ass I’d fart!

Post # 62
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Bumble bee

FYI, more and more people are dating at later ages nowdays. There have been studies on this. It’s not you, it’s this generation in general. Most people your age are in the same boat. 

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