I am 34 and SO is 31. Dated for 3 years, he says he needs to learn more about me

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 2
383 posts
Helper bee

It sounds like it’s already over, with good reason. Sorry, bee. There is someone out there who will want and love you for you.

Post # 3
500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2005

He is back pedaling now because you are ending the relationship. You are not his Ms. Right you are his Ms. Right now.

You are good enough to be the girlfriend, but in truth he is just staying with you until something better comes along.

Cut your losses and move on. 

Anytime someone makes a list of the things they dont like about you and its so long that it tires you out, its over. Seems like he doesnt even like you that much. You are a placeholder.

Do not be a placeholder. Move on and put your time and energy into a better relationship than this one. 

Post # 4
516 posts
Busy bee

Move on — yesterday. I wouldn’t be with someone that had a laundry list of things he didn’t like about me and felt compelled to share them. Uhhhh…

Post # 5
107 posts
Blushing bee

Sounds like you’re answering your own questions, so all I can offer are hugs and sympathy.  I do admire you for standing up and speaking your mind about what you want.  Too many young ladies (and old, for that matter!) still bury that under the rug, thinking they’re playing it cool.

All endings stink.  But if there’s one thing I’ve learned in life, it’s that everything happens for a reason.  Cliche, I know, but believe me it’s true.  Something better is around the corner. Free yourself up for it!

Post # 6
8423 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

You clearly want different things, move on. He’s not worth it. 

Post # 7
900 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

He learned you’re no fool.  Good riddance!

Post # 8
900 posts
Busy bee

It’s over. And the sooner you can block his number and move on, the sooner you’ll meet your Mr Right who does want to share his life with you and doesn’t make lists about all the things he doesn’t like about you. I mean, really, who would want to be with someone like that?

Post # 9
569 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

I am sorry, Bee.

You are a smart, perceptive woman and you know what everyone is going to tell you. You’re just a convenient source of sex for this guy. It is so messed up of him to backpeddle and lead you on. You need to move on. Stop talking to him.

Best of luck! 

Post # 10
934 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I wouldn’t even take his call, its done. No going back, after 3 years if he doesn’t know if you are the one then you are not the one. That is plenty of time to know, I mean even if there are things that he dislike about you so what because thats normal and you dont have to like everything your partner does/doesn’t do but you should know if those are things that you can look past in order to build a life together. 

Do NOT let him string you along anymore, find someone who wants to be with you and loves all of you. HE IS NOT IT. 

Post # 11
1614 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Huge hug bee!

I know you’re hurting right now but I’m proud of you for breaking things off.  It was the right thing.  He was attempting to string you along and you didn’t fall for it.   

Whenever you get down and feel like calling him I want you to remember these words you wrote: The answer to whether I am the woman you want to have a family with is no but you just don’t want to admit it.   

 My gut feeling tells me you don’t like me that much but having a kinda ok girlfriend is better than having no girlfriend so you continue to be with me

I mean……Damn!  Seriously???  MoFo is giving the textbook definition of “keeping my options open”.  I shall quote Chrissy today and just call him a PAB (okay its just too foul to spell out!)


Ummm Sassy?  I think you need to add this to the Book of Lame Ass Excuses……”I keep questioning myself if this is based on love. It seems like your request is a biological necessity and that any person would be good for having kids. It is a thought that keeps bothering me.”  

You may need to translate as only PAB’s will understand.  

Bee you must excuse my ROTHFLOL cause this mofo thought he was laying some deep shit on you with that last text!  

Please, PLEASE reconsider talking to him ever again!

Post # 12
9733 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State


Post # 13
1021 posts
Bumble bee

Damn, bee. You stood up for yourself and did the right thing by ending things. 

I cant even handle the text he sent you. Basically trying to blame everything on you and trivialize your entire relationship into you just potentially using him as a sperm donor when you’ve been together for 3 years and have a fucking right to know where your future was headed. So shame on you for standing up for what you want LOL

Good riddance, loser!

Post # 15
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

People do say things when they are upset… but people do not generally keep a list of things they do not like about their partner , ready to reel off at a moment’s notice!!  He sounds like he has something seriously wrong with him! I would leave!

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