- Wedding: October 2016 - Waldorf Astoria, Orlando
lawandbeauty53: Couldn’t agree with you more!!!!!
FH and I live in Vilano Beach, Florida (Small town right on the beach inbetween Saint Augustine and Ponte Vedra, Closer to St. Augustine.. Anyway)… As soon as we came down here people I have never even met in real life (like super extended family) started calling me and asking how I was doing.
Before living here we lived in NYC, we were both starting up our careers, paying student loans, etc. We had a tiny (SHOEBOX) apartment, no car and no disposable income. Haha… NO one cared.
Suddenly we’re both very well off in our careers, debt free and living in a beautiful condo with a intracoastal boat slip, a boat and nice cars.
My phone doesn’t stop ringing. I get congratulated for finishing up my career path, opening my own practice, getting engaged, blah blah blah. And hey, don’t you live near Walt Disney World? I heard you had annual passes… Do you get discounts for guests? Aren’t you on the beach? Do you have a pool? We heard you have four bedrooms! That must be a lot of space for two people. How many baths? Oh wow, four and a half you say? You could practically run a bed and breakfast…
Some then break off into hints about wanting to see Florida and go to Disney World (we’re 1 and a half hours away) and others blantantly ask. I’ve said maybe to a few, yes to my sister and my brother (and their children), welcomed my mother, and allowed his sister to stay for a week.
Otherwise I hate people in my house. It’s nerve wrecking for me because I have a lot of expensive things and zero trust for anyone outside of our families (I’ve been robbed at gunpoint when I worked in retail and had to fire some of my best employees for theft. NO TRUST.).. I also turn into my mother instantly and start worrying about the cleaniness of my home. I always feel uneasy and constantly clean. It’s just not a comfortable thing for me. So I avoid it.
Anyway, welcome to Florida.. Living here means people will suddenly come out of the woodwork and beg for a place to sleep in your home. They’ll press and squeeze the life out of you if you let them. You have to be really stern with your feelings and your choices. It’s your life- Not theirs. If they want to enjoy your lifestyle, they need to put in the work to acquire it. Either at a resort or by moving themselves. You’re a human being who wants to enjoy the benefit of living here, too. You deserve privacy.
I’d make contact with these people directly… Or have my Darling Husband do it. I’d tell them that you just don’t have the time or space to dedicate to them and that they should make arrangements elsewhere. They should not have cancelled their hotel or invited other people to stay in your home and I would tell them that. You’re not comfortable housing people you’ve never met. That’s really not an unreasonable thing to say. If they don’t like it, tough. What are they going to do? Nothing. They can hate you, but honestly, who cares? They were inconsiderate and you live far away from them now.
I’d also talk to your husband. I understand he was excited about his new life and was being friendly, but he needs to not invite people in your home without discussing it with you.
Welcome to Florida!!!!! It’s so beautiful and fun here, everyone is trying to steal a little bit of it’s sunshine!