Post # 1
Small vent here. I think I have reached the end of my rope.
Over two months ago I picked out Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses for everyone. I let everyone know that the dresses need to be ordered the first week of January to ensure that they come in on time (I did not put my real wedding date on here for privacy reasons. It is sooner than August).
I have sent 2 e-mails to all the girls reminding them to please be fitted by this week. No one has responded and only one has been fitted so far. It’s not the downpayment that is the issue (it is a small downpayment that everyone agreed was do-able). I know that everyone has lives, but seriously, in over two months only one person found the time to go in for a fitting that takes all of about 5 minutes? I don’t get it.
I have offered to drive the girls, go with them and have even offered to help them pay if they can not afford it. Everyone says no, that they are fine and that they will go soon.
Anyone else have this problem? I don’t understand why I need to breathe down everyone’s necks for them to do one thing for me. I have not asked them for help with anything, and I don’t plan on it so I don’t stress them out. And they can’t do this one thing for me…really? I am not a freaking babysiter and these are grown adults.
Post # 3
I would give them a little slack because the last part of the year is a little busy for everyone. Give them a quick reminder that this is the last week. Beyond that, try no to let it bother you. If they don’t get it done in time they can attend as a guest, and it will probably end up being less drama for you in the end.
Post # 4
Girl, I know this is so totally frustrating. There’s no real reason for them not to have done it yet it sounds, except that people are procrastinators.
You’re right — they are adults, and you should just treat them like adults. Adults should be able to get themselves fitted and pay a small downpayment if that’s what they agreed. You have so much else to worry about.
Good for them if they get it done in time. If they don’t, they can cover the cost to rush ship the dress.
Before my wedding, tons of people asked if I was calling the girls to make sure they’d done this or that. I said that my girls had all of the information needed, and that I trusted them to get it done. Because, as you said, they’re grown women.
Post # 5
Ughh.. how frustrating. But I agree with the PP. There’s not much else you can do – they are grown women who should be able to handle this sort of thing. Good luck to you, I hope they get their acts together!
Post # 6
I think your title says it all – you are not a babysitter – you have let them know what they need to do so now let it go – it is up to them – if they don’t get their acts together then it is their responsibilty to fix everything in time. Bridesmaids is a great way to find out who your true friends are. sigh.