(Closed) I am a fat***

posted 4 years ago in Wellness
Post # 3
604 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I had a similar moment about 2 months ago. About 4 years ago, I was at my all time high of 219 (I’m only about 5’3″, and I’m asian…you could imagine the grief I got from family). I decided it was time to do something, and my cousin (who is a workout fanatic) encouraged me to workout with her. After a grueling I don’t even remember how many months, I got down to 179. Thinking I was maintaining, I let myself go for the next 4 years. 

2 months ago…FI and I decided that enough was enough. We had gained a lot of weight since we first started dating, and with the engagement, we talked about having kids and how we wanted to be healthier (since our family history isn’t all that stellar in terms of health) so we can be there to see our grandchildren. We downloaded MyFitnessPal and have been using it since April 1. We’re still working on adding the exercise part to it all. I’ll go walking during lunch once in a while, and I’ve recently added short pushup (girly ones)/sit ups sets to my day (I use runtastic for all of this). Our weight loss hasn’t been fast, but it has been steady – averaging less than 2 pounds a week. 

I wish it was faster so I could look awesome for our wedding in February, but FI likes to remind me that we’re doing this for our health and our future, so slow is better. It helps that he reminds me of how beautiful I am to him. 

Long story short…you’re not alone! I’m still trying to get to the workout part, and we have an ellipticle at home that neither one of us will get on -_- Good luck!

Post # 4
3555 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m having this problem right now. 2 years ago I injured my back and gained a lot of weight during the recovery. While living with abusive roommates I started working out a bunch because the gym was one place they didn’t go in our apartment complex. I dropped 17 pounds down to 160 which felt awesome. Then I moved in with FI who loves my cooking (especially the unhealthy stuff), likes to watch movies with me, and I also landed a highly stressful less active job. I’m up to 185 and I’m so mad at myself for gaining the weight back. As soon as I resolved to work out again I got the sickest I’ve ever been and it took me over a month to get better. As soon as I cleared the illness I injured both of my feet which means running on the treadmill is not a very good idea right now. I’ve been working on the food stuff, but I just want my feet to heal so I can work out again.

We’ve lost the weight before, we can do it again.

Post # 5
1475 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@FutureMrs86 I just wanted to pop in and say, YOU CAN DO THIS!

Your DH is working out at the gym AND eating clean, ask him to help hold you accountable, agree to go with him certain days to the gym, and ask him to call you out on your eating habits.  It’s soo much easier when you have the support at home, and you have that advantage with him.

Good luck with everything, you can do this, I’ll be cheering you on girl! Do not give up, even if you have a bad day or two, keep going!

Post # 6
1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@FutureMrs86:  just be proud you recognized your wake up call. Take the steps you need (cardio/conditioning, weight training and eating right) to lose the weight in a safe way.  don’t expect a miracle overnight and stick with Your program as long as as your weight is trending downward you’re doing good. You can do it, you’ve done it before. Just remember its a lifestyle change not a diet or a goal to achieve. 

Post # 7
263 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m happy you feel better now, and you’re ready to move forward. 32 lbs in two months is actually pretty amazing.

Post # 9
1524 posts
Bumble bee

@FutureMrs86:  now I kno if u saw me in person u would say stfu but my weight has always fluctuated, in highschool I was 135 in college 120 out of college 140 in military 125 and out of military 145. I struggle a lot especially since the weight is on my hips so wen I gain my pants dnt fit. I understand ur struggle, right now I’m training my body and taste buds to love healthier food. Really it’s just the power of the mind! Dnt even put temptation in ur house! Find a type of exercise u luv to do: dancing biking walking jump rope and kno ur strength! I take pride in my core muscles so I know wen I exercise my stomach is tight and nice, that motivates me to workout the rest of my body I even enjoy showing it off a little wen I go to the gym. Just dnt binge diet or binge exercise cuz it does more harm than good. Take it slow enjoy the changes u make and hav pride in ur body no matter wat condition

Post # 10
4528 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I started at 205, which, even though I carry weight well, is far too much for me. Christmas was my wake up call. I wore a new dress, felt so cute, and then I saw the pictures. Whale! I have lost nearly 20 pounds since then, but I’m slipping back into old habits. Try to focus on your reasons forgoing this in the first place. Other than looking good and being healthier, I’m doing this so I can hopefully be a mom. Between arthritis and my eating habits, I don’t feel I currently have a good chance at a healthy pregnancy, and I want to change that.

Post # 12
3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@FutureMrs86: I hope this was your wake up call – I had mine about 10 years ago, basically hitting rock bottom when it came to my self esteem and then I re-built it from there. I’m only 5’3 and was around 180 lbs (all on the tummy) at that point in time. I say around, because the last few months before I changed everything, I was too much of a coward to step up on the scale. Good for you that you did it!

Now, since I reached those 180 lbs, I’ve managed to get down to 120 lbs that I’ve maintained for all this time. The key factor is diet. I just stopped eating cookies, buns, candy, chips and all that type of stuff. I also cut out bread, pasta and rice, so we mostly eat veggies and some sort of protein – fish, chicken, eggs, beans, red meat… When I meet FI, he was living on take out food – on my diet he no longer has acid refluxes and his migraine is pretty much none existing. Changing to a healthy life style does so much more for you than just making you feel better in your clothes!

My tip to you is to set a goal, then keep a log of some sort. Calorie.com has some great functions where you can add all your food, keep track of calories, nutrients and weight. Have a look at it. Involve your husband, if he’s into a healthier life style I’m sure he will be happy to help you out. It always help to have a buddy that pushes you to go to the gym even when you just want to spend the evening in the sofa. In case you need someone to chat to about how to achieve you goal – feel free to send me a PM.


Post # 13
148 posts
Blushing bee

I just wanted to throw it out there, we have a weekly weigh in on Sept 2013 and we’d welcome anyone who wants to join us. I want to lose for the wedding but we will be TTC immediately after and I don’t want to start a pregnancy over weight (been there done that and I was enormous by the end of it!!)

Post # 15
240 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Come join us BEEs on Myfitnesspal.com We can help to modivate you!!

Post # 16
257 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I hit my rock bottom last week! I wish I had earlier since my wedding is in 9 days. The only problem is that I am nursing and so have an extra 10-20 lbs from that. I am just under 6 feet, and thankfully carry the weight fairly well. I used to be a rower but after a devastating injury I gained 40 lbs, then lost it and then gained it all back plus a little extra. It’s sad, but it literally keeps me up at night worrying about how I am going to look on my wedding day.  

My Fi keeps commeeting on how my terrible self esteem is affecting our relationship, as he does not see me in the negative light that I do. 

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