(Closed) I am a jerk. :(

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Oh it’s so tough, especially when they say they are giving you something you want and then it’s something else completely!  Hang in there!

Post # 4
2373 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

How exactly are you a jerk? πŸ™‚

We all get gifts we totally don’t love, it’s harder when we’re expecting a ring. One Christmas my husband got me this necklace- it was a heart with diamonds. Don’t get me wrong- it was nice but totally not my style- not to mention I was expecting a ring. I didn’t have the heart to tell him I didn’t care for it.

  It sounds like your boyfriend was already in a bit of a sour mood *hugs* he’ll get over it πŸ™‚

Post # 6
297 posts
Helper bee


I feel ya.  I’m a little nervous about my gift as well as I haven’t explicity given him any ideas and he interestingly enough, hasn’t asked either.  I’m sure he’ll do a great job, and YES, IT’S THE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS, but I’m kinda hoping he doesn’t just pick up something that I said I needed in passing, like a new toaster or something.  LOL.  We’ll have the rest of our lives ahead of us to get eachother more practical gifts- I don’t feel like the heartfelt and personal ones have run out yet. 

Post # 7
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Awwww, hon

How are you a jerk? Because you wanted a ring and got a tech toy? That is totally understandable !

Post # 9
365 posts
Helper bee

You’re not a jerk.

Let him catch you reading up about it, and come up with cool ideas on how you can use it.  Just to make him feel better. Sit there reading the paper and go “oh wow, i could just search the newspaper when I get my hipad”… stuff like that πŸ˜‰

Post # 10
1730 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Don’t feel so bad – it’s hard to like ANY gift when you’re hoping for an e-ring.  I know better after all this time and the past year’s engagement storm and his brother getting engaged in October to even allow myself to THINK about a ring, but still, I look anyway in my stocking or under the tree to see if having an official holiday makes it easier for him to go ahead and ask that question, only to be let down thanks to my own hopes.

I’m hoping my Boyfriend or Best Friend didn’t go ahead and get me a Kindle, as much as I would have liked it a while back, I’m going to get myself a smart phone in Feburary that can run the program, so it’d be neat, but kinda a waste for something that exspensive.  My Boyfriend or Best Friend is abd about getting excited about getting me… books… for holidays.  I love books, and devour them (figuratively), but it’s a gift I’d expect from like, his mom, not him.   I want fairly stereotypical BF-GF gift from him, like jewelry or slinky things.  πŸ™  They’re not even “sexy” books.  I read them anyway, and enjoy them, but since I read so quickly it’s not something I can enjoy more than every so often, assuming it’s good.  Bleh.

Post # 12
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

You’re not a jerk!!!  Every waiting girl goes through the same thing!!  I’m sure he realizes why you are a little disappointed. Plus he was not in a good mood so that didn’t help.  I know I’m us for some major disappointments too even though I tell my self not to hope.  It’s such a crazy cycle!  Don’t worry we are all in the same boat whether it sinks or not.

Post # 13
736 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Yea, since you have already talked about marriage. I’m sure he must have some idea why you were slightly disappointed.

Post # 14
475 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Very understandable! You are not a jerk, just someone with a dream! Chin up, your time will come.

Post # 15
188 posts
Blushing bee

I agree, what you did was not a jerk move. It’s understandable!

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