(Closed) I am a loner.. and I don't like it.

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I am a little bit, I’m pretty introverted. I have a good amount of friends for me but I’m sure that other people would consider me a bit of a loner. I used to be a total loner though, and the best advice I got was to just start saying yes to everything (even stuff you don’t want to go to). Even if you just make an appearance it establishes yourself as someone who’s up for hanging out, and even if you don’t 100% like the people you hang out with at first you’ll either grow to like them or they’ll have friends that you do like to hang out with. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@dannielle89:  It’s not the quantity that matters, it’s the quality that’s important:) I’d much rather have a few amazing friends than a bunch of casual people in my life. I don’t know how old you are but when you get older you’ll notice the herd thins out and those that remain in your life, through thick and thin are your true friends:) Enjoy your birthday And your cake! 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am, very much so.  Sometimes it upsets me, like on a Friday/Saturday night when I’m sitting at home doing work because I have nothing else to do!  But when I do go out…sometimes I just wish I was at home.

I’m not a big people person.  I love my best friend but never think, “Oh, I really want to see _____”.  It’s very strange. 

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2015

i used to live in Sydney, and moved to Perth a few months ago, where I hardly know anyone.

It does bother me, but at the same time, I know the onus is on me to go out and socialize.

I dont think the problem is how many friends you have, but whether you are happy or not with those friends. If you are, I dont see an issue.

Have your cake and eat it too! 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

Lol last year was my 21 birthday and my best uni friend and I struggled to come up with 12 (?) people we could invite to go punting with us (including the two of us, housemates and boyfriend). It was kinda lame of us XD (but the day was loads of fun).

 

Would I ever change any of my friends in favor of having more? Hell no D: I did the massive friend group in secondary school and it sucked, I genuinely love the people I’m close to now and it’s so much easier ^^

Post # 9
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I am. I had such a hard time choosing girls to stand for me in the wedding because I just don’t have very many people close to me. Two of my girls live out of town, one of the two who live here works full time and has a daughter, and the other is 16. 

I’ve had a lot of problems with friends over the years. I’ve talked about it before, and so many people have tried to blame it on me (“Oh, if you’ve had so many issues, it’s probably your fault,” gee, thanks), but the reality is that I was always the outcast in my group of friends, and I’ve had lots of friends turn on me for one reason or another. I’m not everyone’s taste, I guess–I don’t like personal drama, cattiness, jealousy, fakeness, etc.–I’m very honest and blunt at times, and not everyone can handle that. The majority of my friends around here are FI’s friends, and we never see them because they do beer-centric things and we don’t like beer. 

Oh well.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m on weddingbee on a saturday night while FH plays videogames… “My side” of the wedding is a total of fifteen people. The few close friends I have are 8000 miles away. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@dannielle89:  Maybe b/c I’m older and live 6k miles from my family and old friends, but I don’t have a TON of close friends. I know lots of women that I’ve met through our local spouses’ group and then there are my coworkers/customers. I can’t go shopping locally w/o running into at least a few of them….but Darling Husband and I would rather hang out w/each other. There’s too much drama where we are!

I feel that there are many people that will come in and out of your life…I know as a former military brat. But there are only a few people that will be around for a long time. Those are the people I cherish the most. 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I have many friends, but I don’t have many I like being around. I much prefer being alone most of the time, but if I’m having a good time around people, I don’t want them to leave! lol I guess I can’t quite make up my mind

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Me. I can count on one hand the people who I would consider inviting to my birthday pay ( not that I would have one), two the people who would show up for my funeral. I really don’t care though. I’m just not a social person.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 1998

I’m a complete loner I don’t have any girlfriends at all. I love to stay home with my SO and our kids. I sometimes think it would be nice to have some friends but I have such an amazing relationship with my SO that I wouldn’t want anything to change between us. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

@dannielle89:  I don’t have a stack of friends either. I didn’t have a 30th birthday because I had no one to invite (besides my SO, 2 friends and family!), I wasn’t really fussed anyway. I have 2 close friends that I catch up from time to time with – one I’ve known since I was 6, and the other since I was 13. I am close to my 2 sisters too. I’m okay with not having loads of friends. 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am. I’m an introvert and I am also someone who values few, close relationships over many, more casual ones. I have one or two close friends here, but I rarely get to see them. The rest of my friends are scattered about the country, but even with those, I’d only count there to be about 5 people I’m close to. It bothers me sometimes, and not at all others. Darling Husband is my complete opposite;he’s as never met a stranger, knows someone every where we go, and has 4 lifelong best friends.

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