(Closed) I am a prude, it's who I am, why is that wrong?

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
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11760 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As long as youi’re not hurting me in any way I could care less if you’re a prude or not.  Prude can mean a lot of things and your post really isn’t detailed enough for me to comment more. Some people are just jerks and have little tolerance for people who are different from them.  Being tolerant of others is important, but so is surrounding yourself with people who are tolerant of your choices or share the same beliefs/morals/values as you do.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013 - rolling hills of southern italy

@kris325:  it’s only bad when it weighs on others. I can’t think anyone would judge you harshly about not sleeping around or flirting or anything (especially bc you are married)… But being judgmental when others make choices you disagree with invites them to judge you. 

Post # 6
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3170 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Why are you feeling so judged?

There is nothing wrong with having morals and sticking to them. I think it’s awesome.

Post # 7
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417 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

What do you mean by prude?  If you mean not sexually adventerous I’m wondering why you’re discussing it with others in the first place.  

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

“Lighten up, stop being judgemental, let them be who they are”

Are you making judgemental remarks about others that are not prudes? 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t know, why do so many people KNOW you’re a prude?  I mean, if someone made judgely comments around me all the time for not seeing things the same way they do, that would get old hella-fast.  It just seems odd to me that your prude-ishness is coming up so often in social situations.  Are you sure you aren’t the one making a big deal about it?

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

FI and I are prudes at heart as well. I don’t want to hear about your sex life, I don’t want to see large swaths of your bare flesh, and I don’t much like drinking to the point of drunkeness. These are all things I would never do myself. If people do these things around me it makes me uncomfortable, but I usually don’t say anything to anyone but FI. We’re kind of odd at 23, but it works for us and we’ve managed to find peers who think the same as us. I find it kind of funny that the drink of choice in our social circle is hard cider and no one ever has more than 2 in a night.

Post # 14
Hostess
11177 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@jny1179:  My question exactly.

@kris325:   There is a difference between being a prude and sticking to your personal beliefs and being judgmental. You are entitled to live your life as you see fit but that doesn’t mean other people want to hear your negative comments on how they chose to live (not sure if this is what is occuring). If you don’t agree with how those around you are behaving and your way of thinking is constantly the focus of social situations then perhaps it is time to choose a new circle of friends.

Post # 15
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2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

you can be a prude, but are you making judgment calls on other people that so many people call you a prude?

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

There is a difference between being a prude and being a stick in the mud. 

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