(Closed) I am a terrible person but…HAHAHAHA

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

haha, that is awesome. Sometimes I wish some of my deadbeat exes would send me a facebook message like that, it would totally make my day! I feel horrible for saying that….Oh well!!!!

Post # 4
5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

obviously, the best response is no response at all, but how fun (and evil) would it be to respond with “I’m sorry, who is this?”

Post # 5
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That’s never happened to me, but it definitely sounds like he’s fishing!! As tempting as it may be to give him an update, I would just delete without responding. Don’t open that can of worms. Your non-response will tell him everything he needs to know.

Post # 6
9056 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Hmmm Karma’s a bitch. 

You say he was the first guy who got you in bed, but that he dumped you when you wouldn’t go all the way… So I’m a little confused about exactly what went down, but I’d say he’s either looking to get a taste of the “glory days” or is hoping your life is crapoy too despite what he heard. 

Post # 10
1330 posts
Bumble bee

@Dizbee:  HEHEHEHE

I had a similar thing happen when I first starting dating my Fiance and almost fell for it. My ex f I was with for 10 months was all the same things as your ex, he sounds quite similar..even down to the no money for pot. He assured me he was separated from his wife and nothing was going on, and I found out that he was telling his wife they were getting back together..and the wife and I had a nice confrontation as he was playing both sides…MAJOR D-bag.

I dumped him immediately and neve spoke t ohim. Months later, when  I began dating my Fiance, he called me in a panic..20 times a day he called me (until  I had to file a restraining order) begging to have me back, how he can’t eat, sleep without me…


Blah. He was saying all this as  Iwas sitting accross my Boyfriend or Best Friend of one month (now my Fiance….)…thinking, “maybe he has changed…and who knows where this will go..”

But then I snapped out of it quick, and oh man, ever happy I made the right choice.


Your ex is low, when people are low they want people in their life to lean on. No harm in that but you both are not friends. And you have moved on. My experience is, with people like that, you have to be firm, direct and almost mean.


I would probably not respond as he is most likely seeking comfort in you or wanting to engage in an emotional relationship or more with you..maybe re-kindle the last thing that he had that was good. You probably were, and he probably wants that back.


So stay strong, ignore him. If you must write a note, make it clear you and your fiance read his note and that you hope he takes care of himself however you two are not friends and you have absolutely no interest in engaging in a friendship or anything else and to not ever message you again or bother with you.


Post # 11
2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I would totally post an ” I’m sorry, do I know you? ” lol

Post # 12
1595 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Dizbee:  same exact thing happened to me, I was 19 also…I posted about it a month ago…sometimes men are just so dumb its too bad they were too slow to realize what they had when they had it!

Post # 14
332 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Dizbee:  The “I’m sorry but do I know you?” suggestions are funny! You should do that, lol.

Post # 15
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

He is lonely and probably just wants sex. I’ve had this happen a couple times in the past and what I have learned is that responding makes it much worse. Takes a creepy turn really quickly on his part into so lets meet up and “catch up” territory. Eww and a million times no lol. Just delete and enjoy knowing your life is super awesome and he is still a broke loser 🙂

Post # 16
1925 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hahahaha that’s great!  I love it!

Something like that happened to me once!  This guy I used to mess around with when I was 19 (magical number?) messaged me about 1.5 years ago on facebook (4 years after we stopped hooking up–it wasn’t a bad ending though).  When we were messing around he was so afraid that I would become attached and want to date him, but truth be told I was using him just as much as he was using me!  Anyway, he messaged me on facebook and said he still thought of the “time we spent together” and thinks about me still.  He KNEW I was in a serious relationship (it’s on facebook AND he knows the guy!) but said that he wanted to know if I still thought of him… I politely told him I was in a happy relationship and gave him an update about my life (we ended on good terms, so there wasn’t any reason to not reply). MAN was that an ego boost though!  🙂

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