Post # 1
Ok bees!!! I have talked to him again about the purposal cause obviously it didn’t happen in last three weeks. I had a talk with my bf this morning. He has the ring in the house somewhere and he said he has the purposal all planned out. I just need to be patient. Now he is all intrested in my weightloss goals. I know he didn’t before? But it is always question of when when when!!!! So now i have decided to keep busy going back on the 17 day diet and working out. This weekend managed to steal some girlfriend time to hang with. But he doesn’t seem to be in a hurry to get engaged!!! Did i do something wrong?? I hate the teasing and mind games!! Help bees!! 🙁
Post # 3
It’ll happen when he wants it to…I feel like if you keep asking that will probably just postpone it more and more. Good luck!
Post # 4
The more you pester, the longer it’ll take 🙂
Post # 5
Just keep yourself busy and try not to bring up engagement. A lot of bees have said their FIs postponed popping the question because they were tired of getting asked about when it will happen.
He has the ring, you know it’ll happen soon enough! *hugs* I know it’s rough, but hang in there!
Post # 6
Aw, Just relax! He has the ring! That’s a HUGE and IMO the BIGGEST step!! Now you just get your butt in shape and wait for it LOL. Easier said than done! LOL
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
My FI finally explained it to me in a way that made sense to me after I’d been bugging him about a proposal for almost a year. He said (what I thought was theoretical at the time) that IF he was getting ready to propose, every time I brought it up, it would postpone the process, because for him, he didn’t want it to seem like he was only proposing to shut me up, or because I was “making” him do it. So, whenever I said something about it, even if he had a plan in motion, he’s put the brakes on everything because he didn’t want his proposal to seem like a reaction to something I’d said.
I found out a few months later (after I learned to keep my mouth shut!!!) that he has bought the ring several months before, and was just waiting for the right time, and every time I brought up anything wedding/engagement/proposal related, he would wait a bit longer because he wanted it to be a surprise and completely independant of everything I had said.
So, you know he has the ring– you know the proposal is coming– leave the poor boy alone and let him plan it out!!!
Post # 8
You need to stop bugging him, the more you bug the longer it will take. Let him do it in his time, maybe you are ruining this moment for him, have you thought of that?????….. maybe he wants to surprise you at some point but cant because youre always on him. Give the man some room……
Post # 9
I agree with PP, just let it go! The more you bug him the less likely want he is going to want to do it. He is probably waiting for you to least expect it, but if you keep bringing it up, it won’t happen.
Post # 10
I hate to say this, but your being unfair to your SO!
You really need to relax and stay off the bee for awhile if it perpetuates your obsession with engagement. Get on the Mr Bees plan for July!
Best of luck to you, I know this waiting makes us CRAZY! 🙁
Post # 11
OK thanks for advice bees. I am actually doing better now. I have to think postive and now i am on the right track not bugging my SO at all! Just concentrate on my self for a bit. And planning all the outdoor stuff that we have planned! I have started working out so it makes the difference and eating healthier too!! I know SO has the ring and i just need to leave at that. I will not mention any wedding stuff or engagment stuff for a while. I really think i can do this!! Thanks BEES for being there for me!! I hate waiting but i know in my heart it will be worth it. I will be marrying my BFF and he is the one for me!! i will come back and check once a week to update what is going on!! I know it will happen and soon. 🙂