Post # 1
ok this is problem my friend is getting married. She is doing it at 1:00pm and then expects everyone to be done eating and cake cutting by 4pm. it was byob and now it is we are heading to the bar afterwards so follow us. I dont have alot of money to spend on gift and go and buy drinks at riduclous prices. The food they are serving is baked ziti only five lbs and four lbs of chicken parmasean and meatballs and salad. for 76 ppl. i am like this isn’t happening. She said once food is gone it is gone. I am almost afraid to go cause i dont think it is going to turn out well. i have never been to wedding like this in my life and mine isnt going to be like this. (only 17 ppl) My question how much should i give the bride and groom for a wedding present for a wedding like this?
Post # 3
If you’ve not RSVP’ed yet, why not just decline? Your friend sounds like she’s not being a very gracious hostess.
Post # 4
Give them what you can afford and feel comfortable giving. The same way I tell couples don’t plan your spending based on what gifts you get, you shouldn’t plan your gift based on what kind of food and wedding they will host.
You don’t have to go to the bar after, if you don’t have money for that, say bye to the bride and head home.
Post # 5
It sounds like your friend is having the wedding she can afford. The wedding isn’t at an established meal time, so she’s not providing a meal for guests. It seems like a strange choice of offerings, but you don’t have to partake.
Eat lunch before you go. Enjoy being part of your friend’s celebration. Gift whatever you typically would to a friend of the same status (close friend? acquaintence?). Eat a tiny bit of cake. be HAPPY for the couple. Go home. Easy.
Post # 6
@TwoCityBride: yeah i think i will do that. Thanks bees.
Post # 7
@Strawberryfarmer: She is a close friend but been distance to me for a few months. Her FI dont like me because i am independent and she is not. So i am outspoken alot. She is 25 i am 41. Ive been through stuff and try to give her some sisterly advice. Well now she is not allowed to come to my house now. So now I just dont even bother. I just do my thing now. ill go to wedding but wont stay long just enough to pay my respect.