(Closed) I am all over her facebook! Am I being unreasonable?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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695 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ugh, I’m with you 100%. That is not very nice of her to not remove them after you asked her to. Can you start by untagging yourself in them so they at least won’t show on your profile? Hopefully she comes around.

Post # 4
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732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree! I always thought I wouldn’t want my pics up on FB either, just for my privacy. And to keep my wedding intimate. I think you can request through FB that pics of you are taken down, I think it’s like a formal process. Isn’t there a “report this” button on each picture? I know it’s not like you naked or anything, but it’s YOU in general, that still counts for something!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I don’t know why she is not taking the pictures down. I would untag myself in the pictures until she takes them down.

Post # 7
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732 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Would your sister talk to her? Or any of your other mutual friends? I def wouldn’t want my co workers to see me at a bachelorette party!

Post # 8
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2066 posts
Buzzing bee

Seriously – some people have no clue.  Call her and ask her to take them down.  Explain that you aren’t comfortable sharing pictures from your bachelorette party.  

Post # 10
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2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Until you can convince her to take the pics down, I’d go into my privacy options and select that I want pictures of me to be visible only to myself!  That won’t make things perfect, since people can still see them from your friend’s profile, but it will minimize the chance of the ‘wrong’ people seeing them.

Post # 11
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711 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Ugh I hate that! I also hate it when people tag obviously unflattering pics of me – like, a pic where my eyes are rolled back and my mouth is hanging open or something! And then I’m like “WHY did you post that???” and they act completely oblivious! But when the shoe is on the other foot, they complain about looking “fat” in every picture, and have to look at the camera after it’s taken and then say “take another” and then repose so they can get a good shot…to then immediately go home and post on facebook.

Sorry. Apparently I needed to rant too! 🙂

Post # 12
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33 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Bummer! Totally ok for you to insist she take them down — hopefully she’ll come around and see that it’s making you uncomfortable and that’s not ok!!!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

OMG my MOM has a girlfriend like this – I swear at my brother’s bday party she took over 200 pictures!! Then she put all of them on facebook and proceeded to tag me even in pictures with the back of my head!

Some people are okay with the overshare – however I’m the queen of untagging so no one can see pics of me I don’t like – plus my profile is private. I still think she should be respectful and take down the ones you don’t love. There are too many times silly facebook pics have cause trouble for people’s careers.

Post # 14
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555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Isn’t there a way to report it to FB, if you’re serious about it and she won’t take it down just contact facebook tell them it’s you in the photo you’re not ok with the pics being up and ‘m pretty sure they take them down, done and simple.

Post # 15
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2195 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’m pretty sure facebook is a bitch about removing photos.  You can only have them removed if there’s nudity or something very illegal going on in them, I think.  They have some clause about “not removing photos because they’re unflattering”, and I think with facebook’s lack of concern about privacy, this might be one of those situation where you can’t get them removed because the claim is sort of that they’re “unflattering”.  But I don’t know.  

Any updates?

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

hmmm…I guess I am in the minority here, but frankly she has the right to post whatever pictures she pleases.  I get why it would be annoying for you, and as a good friend she could do what you ask, but she shouldn’t be forced to take down photos of herself just because they were taken at your bachelorette party.  These are the risks you take when you join social media sites like facebook and choose co-workers and family as your friends.  You can un-tag yourself, and ask your friends who support your stance to un-tag themselves too, and change your privacy settings, or remove yourself from facebook altogether.

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