(Closed) I am allergic to our dogs

posted 8 years ago in Pets
Post # 17
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Heather27:  maybe you should just leave and then your dh will realize that his dog won’t cook his dinner, clean the house or do his laundry.  (jk about the leaving part)

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@KatyElle:  +1

Though I would never under any circumstance get rid of my dog, who I consider my child.  But if my SO said that to me, he would be out.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Definitely talk to your doctor. There are options!

 

My mom is really allergic to cats, but she had a few shots and was able to have our cat for his whole lifetime without issue.

Post # 21
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Sugar bee

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@MissNoodles:  +1 to this thought. 

I’m not an advocate of just giving pets up when you haven’t tried everything, but if the last resort is exiling them to the outdoors or garage where they would get very little interation with their family, I think you should let them go to your sister.

He is being pretty selfish if they spend all their time outside and only get to see him for a few hours or less a day (granted this is an assumption because most people work full time) and he is keeping the dog just to see it for that little time and for his enjoyment.

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@futuremrsk18:  This is a tangent, but I work at a shelter and I couldn’t let this go.  If you have no intention of keeping your cats for the rest of their lives, then I would start finding a rescue or no-kill shelter sooner rather than later.  You won’t be doing your cats any favors by putting them in a shelter at 10 years old vs. 6 years old.  I don’t know where you’re from, but our no kill shelter here doesn’t even take walk-ins off the street, and the kill shelter would be the only option. 

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

Your dogs need to be inside and be part of the family, not be stuffed in the garage or worse, be outside dogs.  If you can not provide that for them, then it would be best to rehome them with your sister.  I am sure she would let your husband visit them!  Under normal circumstances, I would say it would be cruel to rehome your 10 year old, but since you have a family member willing/able to take care of her, it’s a little bit different.

FIRST, however, I agree with the other Bees that you need to see your doctor for help and exhuast other options.  

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It does sound like you husband isn’t taking your symptoms seriously, even if he was joking with with his response. But I can also see how he feels like you haven’t tried everything. Like everyone else said, go to an allergy/asthma specialist and see what they can do. Hopefully they could suggest medicines/shots that you haven’t tried, as well as some environmental things, such as getting rid of carpets and rugs and only have hardwood, no animals on furniture (sounds like you are doing that), even leather couches instead of cloth, since the cloth can trap the dander and fur from the air. 

DH is allergic/asthmatic around dogs in general, but he is fine at home with our one dog, who isn’t allowed on furniture and we have hard wood floors. He has a really hard time at my parents’ house, whose dog is always on the cloth couch and where they have wall to wall carpeting. It’s hard, because he always ends up being drugged up on Benadryl when we visit so they probably think he is always sleepy, and we can never stay over there and always get a hotel. So the environmental things could really help.

THEN, if you still are miserable, I think he would take the suggestion more seriously. I don’t think leaving them outside all the time would be a nice solution though, especially if you sister will love them and take care of them.

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I know a lot of people are appauled that your husband wouldn’t give up the dogs when you gave him an ultimative, but I wouldn’t either. And my husband wouldn’t give them up for me, unless there was a serious issue. I am sorry you are suffering from allergies but please see a doctor before you make any decisions. There are a lot of things you can do before you just give up your dogs. And if you dog is 10 and you give her up she’s going to most likely die alone in a shelter. Take your husband to the doctors visits, go see specialists if you can, learn together what your options are and how you can make your life better. Maybe you will see that there is something you can do and if you can’t do anything then DH will see your effort and understand your pain. This may help you come together as a team and find a solution.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

WTF. I am also allergic to all animals, and my dog loving Fiance knew that when we started dating. I will not take medicine for the rest of my life, with god knows what side effects, just so he can have a pet. I understand some people love their pets (we had outdoor cats when I was young but I’d blow up if I even pet them), but I can’t empathize. To me, you should be able to replace that void with a human family. We haven’t had an argument about it yet. If your husband values a domesticated animal more than his relationship with you and your child, he just made this a very simple question for you. Do you value YOURSELF enough to leave him? He sounds like an ass who doesn’t care about your wellbeing.

Post # 27
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

@MrsPeachMartini- She has had her own dog for 10 yrs. Her DH didn’t just come home with a dog knowing she was allergic. It sounds like the OP entered into this relationship with a dog of her own.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

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@Heather27:  A few posters have mentioned getting allergy tests/going to the doctor.  Have you done that/is that an option?

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