Post # 1
Fiance and I are going to have a small wedding of about 30 guests. We are having just a dinner reception, with no dj just my ipod playing. I am really worried about this. How am I going to make it known that its just a dinner reception? Who will introduce the newlyweds (is that necessary) or will we just walk through the door and it will be dead silent? Having no dj means no1 to introduce us, no transition for cake cutting, bouquet toss ect. Ugh! How can I plan this so it can be semi-normal?!
Also, how should we end the night? Obviously after the dinner that will be it, but if I were a guest I would expect more :/
Post # 3
Can you ask someone to do the introducing for you? Maybe an energetic cousin? I dont think its necessarily a must but if it would help you, then dont hesitate to ask someone!!
Post # 4
@peachbaby4008:I am having wedding reception confusion right now so I feel your pain! I don’t think you have to worry about it though. If you want an entrance, ask one of your parents to introduce you for the first time as husband and wife (I know my parents would be honored by that!). You might need to put someone in charge of announcing, or coordinate it with the restaurant so it seems seemless, but everyone will be so excited that I”m sure they will naturally clap/cheer/etc., when you arrive, cut the cake, dance, or whatnot.
Post # 5
I’d make your playlist up for the background music, and like @misschickpea: said, a fun cousin or a guest that’s a great speaker will easliy be able to grab everyone’s attention for your grand entrance. 🙂 If you’re concerned about people expecting more, just make sure that your invites are clear about the start and end time or mention a dinner gathering afterward, or something to that effect.
Post # 6
Do you have a relative or friend who is an extravert who doesn’t mind speaking? I know in my family I have all kinds of loudmouths to choose from! LOL Pick someone to be your Master of Ceremonies. Just give them a list of things to announce like your entrance or the cake cutting or first dance. I can honestly say, I have had more fun at small weddings than I ever did at the biggest extravaganza. With a group like that you can do some fun games too, like the Shoe Game or a version of the Newlywed games with couples from all generations.
Post # 7
Give a timeline to all your bridesmaids and groomsmen. They will be responsible for the time you want something accomplished and making sure its accomplished.
Bridesmaid#1 will introduce you before you come in
Groomsmen#1&2 will make sure everything is ready for the cake and then make an announcement that he believes it is time to cut the cake (even though you’ve allready given him the time to do it nobody else knows.
Bridesmaid#3 (if you do a first dance or a bouquet toss) and tell everyone they believe its time you have the first dance….or time to toss the bouquet. Get your bridal parties invovled (thats what they are there for)
The party will be as fun or as dull as you make it. You could have toast and have the floor open to anyone who wants to share memory of you and your man..etc. Thing of creative ideas that will keep the flow of the evening going!
Post # 8
Self-fulfilling prophecy! You say it’s going to be very very boring and it will be because you are thinking it will be!
Generally people expect it to be dinner and dancing and booze because that is typically the norm (I’m not sure why people expect so much), BUT you can just give everyone the heads up that it’s a dinner only reception.
You can still make a grand entrance. I was in a low key wedding and while they did have a DJ (and no one danced, so it was really a waste of money) the bride and groom made a grand entrance. I wonder if you can have someone announce it (since it’s a small enough group they can here it) and then just have that person or the staff open the door for you to make it even more grand (I’m not sure of your venue, but I picture like double doors and the guys pushing the doors out and in you guys walk, but there are other ways of doing things)
It’s such a small intimate group I don’t think you will need announcements or even a dj. Your wedding won’t be very very boring! It’s be a great time for everyone to get to know each other, bond, and it’ll be intimate so it’ll feel more special without having a million things going on, people being wasted, etc (I wish i could have a small wedding and BOOT everyone from my invite list!) You can always figure out a get together after the wedding, whether it is time at the bar, hanging out afterwards at someones house, an after party, etc. Or you can just end it as is and thank everyone for coming to your wedding and being a part of it.
Post # 9
Thank you guys so so so so much! These are great suggestions! I will have make a team of my bridal party, but I am sure they would be happy to help! :))))
Post # 10
We had a luncheon reception after our ceremony. There were only a dozen guests. We walked in with our guests, so there were no special announcements. We didn’t do bouquet or garter tosses. We didn’t have music. And we didn’t even have a wedding cake. (There was cake, but it was just individual slices, not a cake that was displayed or cut.) Pretty much the only traditional thing we did was that our dude of honor and our maid of honor gave toasts.
We started the luncheon about 2:00. We had to be out of there before 5:00, because that was when the restaurant converted over to dinner service. Every one of our guests stayed until the end, and we had to tell them that it was time to move on.
The thing is, for a lot of people a major purpose of weddings is to catch up with other family members. There was lots of good food, good drink, and lively conversation, and that was all our guests really wanted.
Post # 11
Our engagement party was a dinner with 22 people and it was one of the best happiest and most enjoyable nights of my life.
No dancing, no music, just good food, good wine and good company 🙂
You’re going to have an amazing reception (and its going to be low stress which will be awesome!)
Post # 12
All we did at our reception was have passed appetizers before the seated dinner. The prayer was a little delayed because of a car key snafu. We only cut the cake and had family introductions/statements from the dads & took group photos with the guests. No other stuff. Just music played by the venue. People had a great time catching up and were thrilled that there were no games or other stuff.
We intentionally didn’t plan stuff–been to too many weddings where we’ve cringed at some of the “activities.”
Post # 13
We didn’t have a dj or dancing either. I was a bit concerned about our reception lasting about 5 minutes and people getting bored. I have heard nothing but great reviews of our wedding. Of course I wouldn’t actually have heard that people didn’t like it but what I have heard leads me to believe it was actually true. 🙂 For the announcing, my husband literally went into the reception room about 5 minutes before we were to be announced and found someone to do it. I don’t necessarily suggest waiting that long to find someone but the point is it can be anyone. I also agree with what another poster said that people really like visiting with each other. It sounds like a really intimate and great reception you are planning. I would have a great time.
Post # 14
im not even engaged and SO and I agreed no DJ just ipod playing. I was wondering about announcing and things. A good friend or bridal party members should do the trick. i’d be honored if i was asked by my friend to announce or be in charge of something. 🙂
Post # 15
We had two receptions: 1 dinner reception just after we were married and 1 the next day that had 100 people and was a cocktail reception.
Honestly, as much as I loved my bigger reception, at the end of the dinner reception, I thought “wow…this would have been enough”.
We didn’t have music, just a couple of speeches, and no one introduced us…I think we had 20 for dinner. It was lovely, relaxed, and elegant. Our families loved it. It was definitely not boring.
I think what you’re planning sounds great. I also think that you will really appreciate the closeness and intimacy of what you’re planning.
Post # 16
We asked one of our groomsmen who’s very outgoing to kind of be the emcee, he introduced us and did all the announcements. Worked fine, just make sure they know what they’re doing and when/what you’d like them to say.