- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2012
This is a pretty long rant, so please bear with me. My mom is an alcoholic. Albiet a pretty functioning one. However, she does often times start drama after a long night of drinking. Which she did tonight. My parents live in Central Iowa, I live in Chicago, and my Brother and SIL live in Fort Bragg, NC. My brother is in the Army is getting leave from July 2nd-19th. They were planning on driving to Iowa for the 4th of July weekend. They were hoping to leave on the 1st after my brother gets off of work, but that is going to depend on his shift. So they might have to leave on the 2nd. With my SIL being 5 months pregnant, it’s obvious that they are not going to be able to make the 17 hour drive all in one phase like they usually do, meaning that they possibly will not make it to Iowa until the afternoon of the 3rd if they can’t leave until the 2nd.
Well my mom emails my SIL to see what their plans were as far as coming for the weekend. She apparantly thought that my brother meant that he was going to be here on the 2nd, not that his leave started on the 2nd. Since I am driving in from Chicago, it would be a 7 hour drive for me. My other brother and sister live in the same town as my parents, so its not that hard for them, though my sister does have to work most weekends and would have to take the weekend off to have time to visit with us. Not a huge deal. Well, my mom thought it was unfair of my SIL and Brother to expect me to drive 7 hours and to make my sister take the weekend off if they weren’t going to be here until the 3rd. My SIL showed me the emails, my mom was obviously drunk and not making much sense.
My step-dad then calls me and starts bitching about my cellphone bill being late. Yes, it’s two months late, but my mom said it was okay as long as I had all of the money to her by the 16th of June, which is no problem for me (it’s $60 a month for my Blackberry). My job recently put me back to part-time for a few months, so money has been really tight. My family is not helping with the wedding, so it’s up to me and the Fiance, so I don’t have a lot in savings. My mom was fine and understood. My step-dad tells me that if I don’t have the bill paid in full by the 1st he’s shutting off my phone and also expects the $330 dollar termination fee from me. I have on numerous occasions paid the entire cellphone bill for them ($200) because they didn’t have the money while my mom was laid-off. No questions asked, I was happy to do it. The ONE FREAKING TIME I asked for financial help, I get told off. But it gets worse. He starts bitching to me about he drama my SIL caused with my mom (????????????? I know, my mom started it, apparantly that is not what she told him), and that he didn’t want that drama in their house and the “Mexican Whore” could stay the fuck out. I was in shock. My SIL is the sweetest girl you would ever meet, and to boot she is carrying their grand-child. REALLY? I lost it and hung up.
My SIL called me really confused. I didn’t tell her what my step-dad said, but she did say that they probably weren’t going to visit, because my Step-dad kept calling my brother and my brother knew it was him looking for a fight. Instead they are probably going to come to Chicago to visit me, which will probably start an entirely new fight in my house. I am getting to the point where I can’t handle my mom’s drinking problem, nor can I handle my step-dad’s attitude. They are my parents, but I shouldn’t feel afraid to answer their calls. Does anyone have any advice for me?