(Closed) i am begin a bridezilla or i am justify to feel this way?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

If you want their hair done a specific way, you need to pay for it.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015 - Ruby Princess

You are making them pay for a lot. I would give them a break on the hair. If you want them to have it done, and the same, you need to pay for it.

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

winterprincesse:  If you are requiring them to  have their hair done professionally, no matter what style, you pay.

If you are requiring them to have their hair done professionally in a specific style, you definitely pay.

The amount you spent on their wedding is irrelevant.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

General rule I believe is that if you’re dictating that a certain service be used, then you pay for it. Is it not possible for them to do their own hair in the style you want? 

Post # 6
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Helper bee

Honestly, it’s your wedding and you should be able to ask them to wear a certain dress and certain hairstyle. It’s one day and they can live with it. That said, did you discuss budgets with them ahead of time? Were they aware that you wanted them to spend around $500 to be in your wedding? If not, I can see why they’d be upset.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Here it’s common for bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses too, but I think if you expect hair and/or makeup to be done a certain way and are dictating who does their hair then you need to pay for it. You could always say, I’d like for you to have a side bun (or whatever you want) and let them figure out a way to get it done. That way they could either do it themselves or have someone do it for them, but ultimately it’s up to them how much they pay for it. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think that you should pay the full price of their hair and/or makeup if you want it done a specific way for your wedding.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

1. Let them do their hair however they want.  I don’t get this matching hairstyles thing to begin with.  A little creepy.

2. By your own math, they are paying a lot more to be in your wedding than you did to be in theirs, even before you add the hair charge.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

winterprincesse:  Short answer, yes, you are being a bit of a bridzilla.

First, it is your choice that you want them to have matching hair styles that should dictate you should pay.  Anything that you dictate other than the dress, you should pay for.

Second, your friends are telling you that they can’t afford something, and you are basicaly saying “too bad, my day my way.” 

Third being a bridesmaid should not be a tit for tat in costs.  Priorities change and just because you paid X to be in their wedding does not mean they owe you X amount of contribution to be in yours. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

you should pay for the hair if youre requiring it of everyone.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

“I’m going beyond my budget to help them.”

But what was THEIR budget?  Did you ask them what their budget was for clothing, hair and make-up first?

I mean I kinda don’t blame them.  A bridesmaid is putting out $265 (dress/hair) so far and it doesn’t look like you have factored in make-up yet; and don’t forget gratuity.  Did you have your bridal shower yet – because typically they’ll have to contribute for that and the bachelorette party (if you’re having one) as well. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You should pay for their hair if you’re requiring a certain style.

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