(Closed) i am being picky – should i just let it go?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1205 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

It looks like her dress is very much dressier than yours. I think that’s where the problem lies more so than the colors or the bow. Have you given her any suggestions of dresses you find appropriate besides the color?

I think a more casual dress, even if you don’t care for it, would be the way to go. She’s got her own style, so there’s no changing that, just like you mentioned. 

Post # 4
426 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

I would just tell her straight out that her dress is to formal for your wedding.  She needs to get somthing more casual.  

Post # 5
672 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I agree with the others.  Her dress just looks way too formal compared to what you’ve posted.  Let her have whatever crazy bow she wants, I’d say, but the dress itself needs to be kicked down a notch or two.  Maybe you should browse around yourself and send her some suggestions and re-emphasize how casual you want to keep it, she must just not get it.  Even if you guys have different taste, it shouldn’t be rocket science for her to find a dress she likes that fits the casual tone of your wedding.

Post # 6
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

So you’re wearing the casual white dress with shrug?

Her dress is too fancy. And that bow is pretty ugly on it, too! It’s a strange placement. I’d pick a dress for her and say, "here’s what i’d like you to wear" or tell her "jersey print, X color" something like that. 

Sorry, but your wedding, your style! She can make you wear big fat bows to her wedding. What is your cousin wearing? i think it’d be easier just to find something and say "here buy this"

Post # 8
141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Can you flip the bow to the back, so the sash is straight across in the front, if she insists on that dress? Or remove the sash altogether to make you hate it less?

Personally, I think if you want to go casual that she maybe needs a matte dress (not shiny and satiny like this one) but if you decide not to fight it, maybe think of a way to dress it down? Good luck.

Post # 9
2641 posts
Sugar bee

Ok, your dress is more formal than what we were gathering from the first picture.  But the sweater does make it more casual.  Are you were the sweater for the entire day?  I don’t have a problem with the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, other than the bow.  That is really out there, and terribly placed.  What has the other Bridesmaid or Best Man picked out?

I think you have the right to veto the dress, if you don’t like it that much.  Or just look at some yourself, and give her some suggestions as to what you’d like her to wear.  If you two have different styles, she was probably hoping to have a certain dress, she thought would look nice for your wedding.  But you can remind her, that when she gets married, you’ll be hapy to wear a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress that you don’t feel comfortable in for her…  You are being generous in allowing her to pickout something she can wear again.  If she doesn’t try to work with that, you can just "turn the car around" and pick out the dress yourself…..Then she’ll be really unhappy.    Good luck.

Post # 11
541 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

This is the kiss of death! Never give your BMs a free-for-all! You are the bride. She was honest with you about your dress, so you can be totally honest with her. I agree, that bow is just plain obnoxious!

By The Way, for the record I like your dress. It suits you.

Post # 12
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I have a similar color scheme and I also wanted to find a bridesmaids dress that was simple and not too formal. It is WTOO style 246 and it can come in a variety of colors.  I chose to do the thin ribbon in ivory, but you could choose to do it in a number of different shades instead.  My girls will wear it with spaghetti straps but it can also be made strapless. 


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