(Closed) I am being selfish?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@AprilRenee:  are you asking if you should ask her to cover her tattoos? i’m not sure what a bolero is

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@AprilRenee:  

I understand that you want her to hide her tattoos and such but, no one can take the day away fro. The bride its your day!!

Post # 6
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Helper bee

@AprilRenee:  

Did she say she didn’t want to wear the bolero?  Are all the bridesmaids wearing one?  Did you tell her you wanted her to wear it specifically to cover the tatoos?  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think you should have all the bridesmaids wear a bolero or have no one wear them.  Having her wear something different will make her stand out more than her tattoos.  Her ink reflects her, not you.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve been dealing a bridesmaid who is trying to run the show…..It’s your day!..so do what makes you happy. It should be her honor to be your bridesmaid. And if she agrees with that she will have no problem doing what makes you happy on your big day!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

I wouldn’t single her out to make her wear it. If you don’t want her tattoos and fuschia hair in the wedding then you shouldn’t have asked her to be a bridesmaid. If she doesn’t want to wear the bolero there’s really nothing much you can do without being really rude.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Your sister will not be stealing the spotlight from you on your wedding day.  A bolero is probably going to draw just as much attention as the tattoos (and I assume a lot of people will know why she’s wearing it).  

 

Edited: I was too harsh originally.

 

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@AprilRenee:  thanks =) I’ve never heard of it. I kind of agree with a PP that you should have them all in one if you have her in it but no, i dont think you are being selfish. i also do not think her tattoos will take ANY attention away from you though.

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

In no way will her tattoos take away from your day…. You are the bride and I’m sure all eyes will be on you! I wouldn’t single her out and make her only wear one. I personally think that you asked her to be in your wedding and and you knew she had tattoos and fuschia hair…… If it was that big of a concern for you maybe you shouldn’t have asked her. I would never ask my friends or family to cover up or change any part of them for my wedding. Do whatever makes you happy but if you single your sister out and only ask her to cover up it could possibly hurt her feelings. I always try to treat people the way I want to be treated and I know I’d be hurt if someone singled me out especially coming from my own sister…. 

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