(Closed) I am being WAY too sensitive about this – but it’s PISSING me off!! (vent!)

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Honey bee

I think they told you so you wouldn’t be blindsided when you run into them next if they say something or so you could address it next time you see them. I think it was nice of them to let you know. I don’t think they told you just to make you feel bad, but so you could know what to expect to help smooth over any bad feelings with this long-time family friends. 

So based on what you told us, unless there is more information, I do think you are along. I think your mom and sister were giving you the heads up.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I feel like you’re being a little overly sensitive, and maybe it’s just because there’s been previous drama.  It’s completely possible that someone was disappointed they weren’t invited.  Your sister didn’t say the family friend now hated you and didn’t want to talk ever again… just that they were disapointed.  I think most people will realize you can’t invite everyone, but that doesn’t mean they don’t wish they could have been there. 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Could it really be taken this way “oh how nice that she was sad she couldn’t be invited”? 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

eehhh, I would probably be irked too, since there is really no point in them telling you that other than to be negative.

I’m sure once you get a chance to get over, you will pretty quickly though, it’s minor in the scheme of things :). You can’t control what your mom or sister says, you can only control your reaction to what they say, so don’t let it get to you.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

It would annoy me too – people still were bringing up our guest list decisions 8 months after our wedding, and it was definitely to say that we had done things “wrong” in their opinion. 

We gave our parents the opportunity to add people that they really wanted there outside of the family, up to a certain amount…  If these people are such good family friends, why didn’t your mom ask for you to invite them when you were drafting the list? 

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

My interpretation is this: your mom and sister wanted you to know how much the family friend think of you. So much, that she was disappointed to not be able to be at your wedding. I don’t think it was a “bad bride” thing, they probably just wanted you to know how much the family friend cared. They went about it the wrong way since you are saddened by it. Hopefully you can see it from this perspective and just move on. That’s usually how I interpret statements like these, but who knows… I may have been offended as well.

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