(Closed) I am certain I have picked the wrong dress

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@iluvbabo:  can you talk to your siter and go back and try on the same dress again (I mean a sample).  Is your one being altered or do you have it at home? 

Post # 4
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Do you have any pictures to show us? Although I suppose if you’re aainst it completely our opinions might not change your mind :/

Post # 5
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

i would like to see a pic too. I cannot help thinking that there must have been a reason you brought that dress.

Sometimes I have second thoughts about my dress too. Its too long to wait for a girl really especially if you have to buy a dress more then six months from the event. I often change my mind about heaps of clothes i have brought so why would a wedding dress be any different.

Post # 6
1636 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I agree with the other posters, we need to see a pic of YOU in the dress…  then we will be better able to give out advice.  🙂 

How many dresses did you try on?  The good news is, its still so early, you can sell it and perhaps get a new one if  you are not happy with it.

Keep your chin up!  There is still a long way to go.




Post # 7
202 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m having a similar situation but with my photographer.  I’ve already booked him and put down a deposit, but I’m pretty sure I’d rather have someone else.  But rather than regret that I’ve already put down a deposit, I just decided that I can’t get back that money and I have to decide what photographer I want now.  So from this point forward, if I choose my current photographer, it will cost $1500.  Then I can compare the cost of a different photographer to that amount.  

You can apply the same logic to your dress (except you’re in a better situation, because you can probably get some money back!).  Assume that you’re starting from scratch and look for a new dress.  Yes, if you hadn’t bought the other dress, you might have a little more money to spend.  But if you honestly can’t get the money back, then worrying about it won’t solve anything.  (Like they say, there’s no use crying over spilled milk!) 🙂

I would say, go back out there and try on dresses.  Don’t buy anything until you’ve tried on the dress at least two separate times.  For example, I tried on my dress on a Friday.  I loved it, but I wanted to make sure.  So I went home, thought about it for a day, then I went back on a Sunday and still loved it.  (I should say, I did this same strategy with a different dress beforehand, and when I went back to try it on, I didn’t buy it! It just wasn’t as wonderful as I had remembered it.)

Good luck!!

Post # 8
8883 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I’d love to see a picture as well.  I say this in the nicest way possible, but it sounds like you are generally indecisive.  You had a hard time choosing a dress but you said you fell in love with this one.  But now you’re changing your mind.  Maybe it’s just a case of you needing to try the dress on again and fall in love with it all over again?

Post # 10
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I feel your pain!  I also jumped the gun and bought a dress I didn’t love.  Luckily, I was able to convince the store to let me exchange it and pay the difference on another (more expensive) one that I fell in love with.  Are your dresses from the same store?  Would an exchange be a possibility?

Otherwise, I’d put the dress up on one of the used dresses sites and do whatever you have to to get the one you love.  As far as your family goes, don’t let them get to you if they think you’re being silly.  Just explain how you feel to them – they’ll want you to be happy.


Post # 11
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I was impuslive and bought my dress because I saw it cheap from another bride.  I had already tried it on and I knew it fit but it was not “the dress.”  I feel you.  The good news is that if you stop looking for more dresses, you let it sink in and you try it on again pinned to fit you correctly you may fall in love with it.  It’s still not my dream dress but it sure does look good for the price I paid and it fits me well.  I’m not overly romantic about a dress because it is, after all, just a dress.

Post # 12
237 posts
Helper bee

If you love that other dress and think it is beautiful but don’t like the one you have why would you wait? Okay, try on the other dress another time, bring a friend, but sell the other dress. No point in waiting too long.

Post # 13
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Perhaps there is more to it than constantly doubting your choice of dress? Seems like most brides find a dress by 1-2 appointments.

Post # 14
45 posts
  • Wedding: August 2014

Has anyone ever put 50% down on a dress and change their mind and just not pick up the dress?

Post # 15
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@archie2oliver:  YES!  I worked at David’s Bridal and we had a fair number of dresses that were 100% paid in full that people never picked up.  I think we kept them a year beyond the wedding date and then the items were donated…but the bride always got many, many calls before that happened.

Post # 16
1781 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes, pic please! But then.. Keep trying on more dresses! I’m a huge fan of that, but it totally goes against the grain. I bought 3 dresses!!! Lol. I hated my first one, but I will be wearing my other two and I am thrilled about them! If I stuck with my first dress that I knew was wrong for me, I’d be having a breakdown right now! 


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