Post # 1
Okay when it comes to weddings i am very clueless on everything. I have been to maybe 3 weddings in my life and none of my friends and close family members are married. I’m relatively young so the first to go amongst my friends. My sister wants to help but she has also never been married so we’re both lost when it comes to anything relating to a wedding.
So when it comes to invitations.. It was not until now did i realize many people send out a save the date invite and then later the actual invitation. Can someone please explain this to me. And when am I suppose to send out the save the date invite? How many months before my wedding date and when should i send out the actual wedding invitation. And should the save the date invite be professionaly done or can it be handmade and more simple?
Please someone help me!
Post # 3
I think save the dates are best when you’re including a lot of out of towners or a destination wedding. If everyone is within 3-4 hours driving, I don’t think you really need STD (that’s Save The Dates, in WB speak).
You make your invites/STD as creatively as you want. One of my girlfriends knew that I totally loved graphic design but chose instead to go the Vistaprint route because she wanted it to be easy. I actually only did a wedding website (had 65 people attend) and found that totally worked for us. Its really about where you want to put the effort in…
Post # 4
Congratulations on your engagement! I suggest that you try to pick up a wedding planning book (secondhand if possible) ASAP. This was a big help for me as I tried to figure out when and what needed to be done. You might find the timelines at The Knot and the wedding timeline checklist here [http://russellandhazel.com/content/wedding-templates] helpful.
You don’t have to mail out a formal save the date, especially if you don’t have many out of town guests. It’s essentially 1) a fun project and 2) a courtesy for people to let them know months in advance that they should be hopefully planning to attend this event. Obviously there’s a big difference between going to a friend’s wedding across town and having to make all the arrangements to fly across the country — you’d want to know this was coming up at least 6 months in advance, so you could start saving and planning, right? (I sent mine out 8 months ahead, because we had a lot of folks traveling for the wedding.)
But — if you don’t have time or money to send out a formal save-the-date, or if your guest list is mostly local, an email save the date with a picture of you and your fiance, or a cute design from punchbowl.com would be totally fine to let everyone know the basics. If that sounds like too much work, word-of-mouth is OK too.
Your actual invitations should go out about 3 months in advance. Again, this gives people time to plan –“oh, we need a hotel on THIS side of town, near the reception site.” But if you have a small guestlist who is already pretty well-informed, 2 months would be OK too. The closer to the time you get, the more potential conflicts people may have.
People will take their cue from your invitation about how formal a wedding it is. You can totally handmake invites (and come out with a lovely, formal looking product)…you can have them printed by a professional printer or by Vistaprint if that works better…or again, if the whole thing seems too much, you can email the invitations. But people will presume an informal wedding if you email…just as they would presume something fancy if you send out engraved script invites.
Hope this was helpful!
Post # 5
@WillyNilly: Thanks I did not know STD’s were usually only sent out to out of towners. I thought it was for everyone but good to know.
@village_skeptic: Thannk you! I am very excited and can’t wait. A wedding planning book is a great idea. i do not know why i didn’t think of this.
You ladies are very helpful.
Post # 6
I sent save the dates to everyone – once we set the date, I just wanted people to know when to plan for. I sent them 8 months in advance, although that’s a longer timeframe than some people will suggest. They just said Save the date! *** and ***, August 4, 2013. Our actual invites will go out two or three months before the wedding, and will include all the information and an RSVP card.
I found the Real Simple Weddings magazine/almost book to be very helpful when I was starting, and it includes a lot of timelines and lists (you can also find a lot of them on their website: http://browse.realsimple.com/holidays-entertaining/weddings/index.html )
Good luck and have fun!
Post # 7
@sruan: @WillyNilly: i sent my std’s to everyone. that way they could put it on their calendars ahead of time. some of my guests are very busy and travel a lot so i thought it best this way.
Post # 8
@sruan: I would not send save the dates to only out of town guests. We sent ours 11 months before our date to all of the people on our guest list. You don’t HAVE to have Save-The-Date Cards, but I like them because I like to plan my schedule accordingly–they’re just a heads up that the wedding date and and invitation are coming. Invitations are sent out 6-8 weeks before the wedding, with the RSVP date 2-4 weeks before the event date.
As far as what an STD looks like, it can look like anything. I designed ours myself and had them printed through Vistaprint.
Post # 9
@sruan: If you choose to send out a save-the-date, they should go to everyone…but the info is most crucial for out-of-towners to have in advance, even if you don’t send out an actual, physical save-the-date. 🙂
Post # 10
Save the Dates are optional and it varies from Bride to Bride. Some people like myself sent it to the all of the guest. I just think it’s a nice heads up for everyone to know what the dates are for the wedding. Also the majority of guest list is oot so it helpful to those traveling.
I would advise you to just hang around the boards because there is a lot ways to do things and people have various ideas about when and how to send them. So just hang out and figure out which works best for you and your guest list.
Post # 11
Thank you for all these great advice. I think I might just send it out to all my guests so they can have a heads up on my wedding date.
@TwoCityBride: I’ll definitely hang around. I’ve been getting a lot of great advice from weddingbee. Glad i joined. Everyone is so helpful and nice about everything.