- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
I have been stressed and extremely worried for the past couple of months. My boyfriend and I have been dating now for 2 1/2 years and we are now considering marriage. Just to summarize the whole relationship in a nutchell.
We are in a LDR, we both live in different states (4hrs away) and I have done most of the travelling since he was still in school when we met. He is very caring and adorable but honestly he lacks the drive to better his situation and I am starting to feel like I wasted my time for the past years. He works for a retail store where he doesn’t make much, I make more money than he does and I have been pushing him to find another job but it seem like everything I did/said has been pointless. I even helped him applied for work in my state but unfortunately he didn’t get the position, he has a degree in Finance Economics but dude won’t make use of it. I feel a bit ashame to say this but he still lives with his mom, he can’t afford to live on his own as of yet and from the day we started dating I have told him that I will NOT move to his side of town. He assured me that he would like a change of environment and he will consider moving to my side of town when the time comes.
Now 2 and half year later we are planning on getting married, and we’ve started booking vendors. The situation that now leaves me on the edge of breaking this up is because I feel used and lead on. He finally admitted to me last week that he will not be moving to me. How do I quit my job & move to a man that still lives with Mommy, does not have a solid job in the name of love????..He claims we can get a place together pending the time I find work in NY but I love my current job and honestly I am not willing to compromise in this situation, I live alone, pay my bills and all, we are even on the same mobile plan and guess who pays more of the phone bill??….ME.. Don’t get me wrong I know he has the potential to do more for himself, he just needs to be pushed at all time, and I am getting tired of pushing him..I feel like I am in a relationship with a child. I get along great with his family & my mom absolutely love him BUT I don’t feel like he will be or is man enough to handle a home. I know we will live comfortably if he transfers his job to MD and with my income we should definitely be okay but I don’t see comfort and happiness if I move to him. I am sooo confuse & I seriously need your advice ladies. HELPPPPP!!!!!