(Closed) i am doing a BBQ at home reception, wearing a dress, what about guest attire?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2871 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

I would say “smart casual attire requested”

We had an after elopement party we put something similar on our website and most people dressed accordingly.  In all honestly though,  it really didnt matter at the end of the day what the heck people wore.


Post # 4
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I don’t really think there’s a polite way to dictate what your guests wear. They’re adults and capable of dressing themselves appropriately. I just went to a wedding at a state park last weekend and everyone was still dressed nicely, but appropriately for the weather. If it’s hot out, you’re going to have to expect a few people in dress shorts. The people who really do dress “grungy,” are probably going to do so regardless of what you print on your website. The only way to communicate style of dress is if someone specifically asks what they should wear.

Post # 5
2889 posts
Sugar bee

We had a similar issue when we celebrated with a backyard party in DH’s hometown. It was a catered buffet which may be a bit more formal than a BBQ but no one knew that ahead of time. We sent out paper invites and included a line that said (translated) festive dress requested. The intention was to let people know jeans would be too casual and it is still a festive occasion even in his parents’ back yard. Over all it worked perfectly. Only one guy wore jeans and he paired them with a blazer and nice shoes thus not looking too casual. I wore a short dress and Darling Husband a suit. In fact, many of the men wore suits which was even more than I expected. I think writing something about semi-formal or festive dress requested is a great indicator for guests as well as spreading the dress code via word of mouth and not calling the reception a BBQ.

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