- 5 years ago
Long version: I see a good friend of mine about 5 days a week because I volunteer at the non-profit store my friend runs. Her kid, let’s call her Maggie, is turning 8 in 3 weeks. She drops by the store every day for an hour after she gets out of school.
Maggie is an enormous brat. As soon as you say something she doesn’t want to hear (like, “Maggie, put your shoes back on. We have to go.”) her shoulders slump and she starts whining, a whine that cuts though your head and makes you wanna run away.
Yesterday, Maggie took some books out and left them all over the store. My friend, let’s call her Jen, told asked her to put them back, politely. Maggie started flapping her arms like an idiotic goose and whined that she didn’t take them out (she did) and wasn’t putting them back.
Jen had told me earlier in the day she got Maggie a kitten. She told Maggie she had a big surprise for her when she got home. So, Maggie was whining and fake crying saying she wanted her present NOW! and would put the books back when she got her present.
Maggie flipped out and spent the next 45 mins screaming and crying that she wanted her present. She threw 6 pairs of shoes at Jen, smacked me in the arm, shoved both of us, and kicked her mother in the shins.
Short version: My friend’s 8 year old daughter is an enormous brat. I see her about 5 days a week. She always wants me to play games with her and talk to her. Yesterday, she flipped out, hit me and her mom, kicked her mom in the shins and threw a tantrum for 45 mins. I am telling her today that I don’t want to talk to her or be friends with her because of the way she treats me and her mom. If you were her mom, would it upset you if your friend told your child she doesn’t want to be her friend because the child hit your friend yesterday?
I AM DONE. Everytime Maggie sees me, she drags me over to play a game and hugs me, and clings to me and wants tons of attention.
Well, I think she’s an enormous brat and I can’t stand her, so today, I am telling her I don’t want to talk to her or play with her because she is mean to her mom and mean to me.
If you were Jen, would that upset you? I think Maggie needs to understand this; if you hit someone and scream in her face, she may not want to be your friend and she has that right.
I’ll just tell her, “Maggie, you hit me yesterday and screamed in my face. I don’t want to be your friend because you’re mean to me, so no, I don’t want to play with you.”
Is that too harsh? I don’t think so.