(Closed) I am Engaged! Where do I start????

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
3254 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

The most important thing to do before you start planning and buying is to figure out how much money you realistically can set aside for your big day. This will alleviate a lot of stress and eliminate some dresses, venues, etc. and make the planning less intimidating. 

CONGRATULATIONS, and welcome to Weddingbee! πŸ™‚

Post # 4
18637 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Congrats on your engagement!

The first thing you need to decide on is a budget, that will help you with all your other decisions.  Once you have that set, you need to think about the location, guest list, and big vendors like the photographer and caterer.  I don’t really like The Knot’s boards but they have basic checklists that give you an idea of where to start.

Post # 5
322 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree with the other two πŸ™‚  A budget is a must!  Then pick a date, or a set of dates.  Once you have those, you can start figuring out fits in your budget and where you want to have your wedding – beach, church, garden, etc. 

Just a heads up, the most places will book up 6 months – 1 year in advance. 

Congrats and good luck!!

Post # 6
442 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I thought the same thing, I’m engaged what do we do next? Everyone will be asking questions, and it’s ok for you not to have any answers. Fiance and I have decided to wait to 2012 to get married. We have not discussed anything, and we are just enjoying the engagement. 

Post # 7
47 posts
  • Wedding: September 2011

I have no idea where to start because I’m just now thinking about planning, but just wanted to say CONGRATS πŸ˜€

Post # 8
6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Congrats! i would def start with

A. Budget

B. Set a Date

C. Pick Venues

D. Start Dress Shopping πŸ™‚

E. Figure out a color scheme

From there things should get easier -BM Dresses – Decorations Etc.

I found i was completely overwhelmed until i set a date and once the venue was booked i could sleep easier…after i had those two, things started falling into place.

Post # 9
1890 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Congratulations!  I think the other Bees said everything right.  Definitely decide on budget and then start looking at venues since they’re the first thing to book up.  I found that Wedding Bee is great for getting inspiration from other brides (the Galleries are awesome!) and for getting advice.  Wedding Wire is also excellent for when you’re looking at vendors. 

For the budget, you can do a Google search to see what average wedding costs are in your hometown and try to figure out what percentage of your budget you want to allocate to each thing.  Your idea of a perfect wedding will differ from everyone else’s though, so you want to figure out what the most important thing is to you.  For example, we’re spending more than the average % of our total budget on music b/c this is important to us, but we’re saving $ by not doing extravagant favors or invitations.

Post # 10
1105 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Congratulations!  Definately what the previous bees have said….budget, date, color scheme, location, etc…..and definately Weddingbee everyday:)

Post # 11
518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Congrats!  I think what the other bees have sugegsted are great.  Budget, date, venue, dress, color, guests, DJ, Photo…

Post # 12
688 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Congrats!! I’ve been engaged for a whole two weeks so I’m no expert, but I am obsessive about planning and organizing, so here’s what I did:

1. Bought way too many books and magazines to start getting ideas. Sat on my ass, tore out pics, overindulged in cheap champagne.

2. Figured out when we wanted to get married (spring 2012, no month pref) and made prioritized list of venues and started booking appts to tour (appts that are now all f’ed up because of the freakin snow).

3. Insured ring.

4. I’m a psycho about organizing so I bought a pretty binder and created some color-coded Excel to do and budget templates, though they are not filled in yet obviously. We’re weird and made a guest list about a year before we got engaged so that’s done too, which is good since all the venues ask how big of a party (too big! lol).

5. Engagement gifts have started to come in (wooo!!) so I bought us notecards personalized with our names on it so we could be classy when thanking people. I got them on finestationary.com, $60/100 thermography cards. I don’t know if this is really a necessary step but I’m just telling you what I did.

I think next weekend our families will sit down to discuss budget actuals, (right now I’m going on what I think is a reasonable assumption) and I hope to book a venue in January/early Feb. I won’t worry about anything else until the venue’s set, can’t do anything without knowing the wedding date/style of the place! 

Theknot.com has good checklists to get you started based on how far along you are, (12 months out, 8 months, etc) so does the Mindy Weiss book (buy it if you don’t already have it! My bff gave me a copy and it is AWESOME).

Post # 13
329 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Congratulations!!!! I second what the bees above me have suggested!!! Happy planning!

Post # 15
394 posts
Helper bee

Set an overall budget, and then an estimated budget for each area. Photographer, Dress, Venue, Food, Florist, etc. 

From there you can decide on themes and style preferences. Colors, flowers, food type, etc. 

Congrats and Good luck with the planning!


ps- i am a photog. so if you need any help understanding photographer packages contracts feel free to message me your questions and i will help however i can πŸ™‚

Post # 16
7052 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

The other ladies have steered you in the right direction.

Def decide on a budget.  I like the tools on StyleMePretty for budgeting, and in Martha Stewart’s wedding mags, she has them in the back.

I would scour the internet and find your favorite wedding sites, also look online to see photos of the city you’re marrying in, look at photos of the season you’re marrying in (flowers in bloom, temperatures, locations), and begin what I call a “look book” notebook.  In it, clip out or print out photos that inspire you of what you’d like your wedding to feel like.  Or if you have picasa, you can create collages of these photos.

Make sure to bring these photos when you meet with your event designers, florists,, etc.

Our site has a wonderful tool for finding local vendors so do use that too!  Weddingbee is the place also, to get honest answers from fellow brides and bounce ideas back and forth!   

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