- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I don’t know where to start. Bear with me, as this is long.
Well, we are having a small wedding of about 50-70 people tops. We wanted something simple, so we are not doing a lot of things (like guestbook, dj, dance floor, bouquet and garter tosses, bridal party, etc). I wanted small and elegant without a lot of fuss, but apparently that is hard to achieve. Small doesn’t necessarily mean budget friendly, at least not in South Florida. 🙁 Anyway, we managed to find a wonderful restaurant where we can hold the reception, and the ceremony will be in a small historic building on the same block. All in all, the cost is not that high–and definitely much cheaper than holding it all at a nice hotel where the cost is usually $150 pp.
We have just committed to a wedding photographer who is giving us a very good deal–unlimited coverage with an assistant, an engagement session, dvd of 400 edited and color corrected images, as well as original images, all for $1600. I negotiated with her for that price and she was wonderful about it. I told her we didn’t need the engagement session because it’s not important to us, but she said it was a free service and that it was beneficial so we could get to know her and get comfortable being photographed, so that our wedding day would come out well. At any rate, she is very good and is giving us a good deal so I should relax already.
But it is all just piling up. $1600 for a photographer. The cost of my dress. The cost of the venue, chair rental, restaurant, cake, flowers, place cards, invitations, hotel, transportation, rings… it just keeps adding up and adding up and getting to be more than I ever anticipated. We’re doing the most budget friendly things we can–simple cake, flowers from Costco, invitations from Michael’s, etc. But still, it just keeps getting to be more and more.
I know in the grand scheme of things, we are not paying that much. But we’re a very low key couple, and it’s all becoming so overwhelming to me. Just now I looked up how much it would cost to have my hair done at the hotel salon. $95 for a bridal updo. Yes, another $95.
It’s getting to the point where I’m freaking out over what kind of chair rentals we should get for the ceremony site. I’m NOT doing chivari since those are $7 pp. But should I do white wooden folding chairs for $2.50? Plastic white samsonite chairs for $1 pp? The $2.50 is not that much more money to get a prettier chair, but this is how I got into this mess in the first place. The next level option isn’t that much more expensive so why not go for it, right? And that’s how I wound up with a $1600 photographer rather than a $1200 one, and a $1500 dress rather than an $800 one.
Ack. Please reassure me that I am not going out of my mind and that it’ll all be worth it in the end. I’m starting to wonder.