Post # 1
We are getting married this friday on the 10th of june. We have everything almost done but I am still worried that everything will go wrong. I am worried that I will not like my hair style or makeup. I am worried that the weather will be too hot and I will have a shiny face all day long. I am worried that the food will not turn out righ or there will not be enough. I wanted my step kids in the wedding but their bio mom flipped out at the last minute. I wanted my 13 yr old to be my maid of honor but we didn’t have enough money to get her a dress 🙁
I am just worried about how everyone else is going look at my wedding day. My only sister and I have litteraly stopped speaking as of last week and I have no desire to ever speak to her again. Neither of my parents are alive, so that is really on my mind. I have to stay up the night before the wedding and make mashed potatoes and green beans…lol I wanted a cupcaketower for my cupcakes but I do not want to spend $15 on a cardboard tower that will be tossed as soon as all the cupcakes are gone. Fiance and I paid for this ENTIRE wedding all on our own as far as the reception goes. Our ceremony was all FREE including rings and all decor.
Is there anyway I can stop from worrying myself into a frenzy? How did the rest of you bees get through the week of your wedding? Was there anything that went wrong that you can laugh about it now? I know I should not spend my day worrying about food and decor but I just want the day to be perfect.
Oh yeah and no honeymoon either…lmao!!! I am going out of my freakin mind. HELP!!! Any stories or words of wedding day wisdom ?
Post # 3
Just think about the reason you’re getting married. That’s what is keeping me from getting stressed (our wedding is on the 24th!). I keep asking myself, “What if everything goes wrong?” Honestly, then it goes wrong, but at the end of the day, we will still be married, and THAT’S what matters. Breathe, and enjoy yourself!! Congratulations on your upcoming nuptials! 🙂
Post # 4
The stuff that goes wrong is the stuff you will talk about 30 years from now. No one seems to remember all that went right. It is the stuff that went wrong that they reminisce about and laugh about. They become the good memories. I have done hospice for many years and have heard everyone’s stories so I know that the treasured memories are all the stuff you are worried about right now. Relax! I have never heard someone mourn over an oops at their wedding. I guess because at the end of the day they were still married and time teaches us what is important. 🙂
I will be praying you can relax and enjoy your special day!
Post # 5
thanks bees. I am so very happy.
Post # 6
Girlfriend Relax. Take a nice bubble bath, have a glass of wine, and listen to your fav CD. Everything will be fine. My one suggestion is to get sleep the night before cause your wedding day will be very long as well as emotional.
Cupcakes- I am displaying on glass plates and in martini glasses. Can find them @ the dollar store or ask friends and family if they can let you borrow.
Relax. Relax. Relax:)
Post # 7
I feel your pain. I’m getting married on Saturday, and I have definitely had my freak out moments (on the inside, I’m not screaming or anything ha). But as of yesterday I’ve decided that whatever happens, happens.
Pick one thing to concentrate on, and let the rest just flow. I am going to focus on slowing down and enjoying myself. Everyone keeps telling me it’ll be over before I know it, and I want to have a good time. This is the goal, correct?
Post # 8
you sound EXACTLY like i did in the week before my wedding. and i got worse and worse and I got sick and the i LOST my voice the day before my wedding! it was not pretty. the night before my wedding all i could do was cry because i thought i wouldnt be able to say my vows, then i cried more because i thought i would wake up with my puffy eyes! it was bad. then i had the worse wedding nightmare of all the ones i ever had before. but let me tell you this, my wedding was PERFECT. everyhting i was worried did not happen. and finally, on the day itself, i stopped worrying! so even if some tiny little thing HAD gone wrong (and well there some SMALL things that didn’t go perfect), i just stopped caring. i was so happy that day, that nothing could take away from it.
so i told you this to give you some hope. you may be freaking out now, but your hard work will pay off and your wedding will be lovely just because you are gettting married! and the small things you are worried about just wont be that important, and even if a couple of things are not just right…..MOST of them will go exactly as planned!! have fun!
Post # 9
You need to keep focus on the ultimate reason for the day: Marrying your man! Everything else is just fluff ya know?
On my wedding day my hair/makeup artist was a no-show. She’d gotten the dates wrong and now couldn’t make it. I had all of these visions of me walking down the aisle with my hair a mess and no makeup on or cry smudges all over. I was SOOOO upset! But ya know what? We figured out a plan B and I loved the results:
Our burned CD didn’t work in the chapel stereo, but my husband had backed up the songs on his brother’s IPod and other then a small delay that I noticed but our guest did not, I didn’t even know about the issue until after the ceremony.
I guess my point is that things WILL go wrong, but if you roll with the punches and don’t give up, your day will be amazing anyway and you’ll be married to your wonderful man. 🙂 That’s the most important thing anyway. The rest can come or go. As long as you get married, then you’ve succeeded! 🙂
Post # 10
I think acceptance is important to dealing with stress. I tell you, something WILL go wrong. It just happens. After acknowledging this, it’s easier to tell yourself “Ok. Stuff happens and when it does I will just roll with the punches.”
Post # 11
I used to be a catering manager, and I always told all of my brides (and now remind myself!!!) that when the day comes, you can’t worry about how everything’s going to turn out! It’s your vendors’ jobs to make sure that if anything is on fire, you don’t see it, and if you do…it’ll be something you can laugh about later when you think back on your wedding. If something’s going to happen on your wedding day, it’s going to happen, and you can’t do anything about it…so you might as well laugh along and enjoy the day. 🙂 Also, just as a sidebar…99% of the time, nothing that the brides were worried about went wrong! 🙂
Also…delegate, delegate, delegate!!! Make sure that you are enjoying your day, not worrying about things that need to be done. Hang in there!!! 🙂
Post # 12
@bryenswife: This is your mantra to repeat to yourself (or at least, this is my mantra): I can only control so much.
Things will probably go wrong, but you can’t control it. So no amount of worrying will prevent them. You can only control what you can control. Just try to soak it up because it is your day! Keep a sense of humor and relax!
Post # 13
It’s your day today!! Hope that it is amazing and that you got some time in to relax before it all happened.
Have a wonderful day and I look forward to seeing some pics.