(Closed) I am getting my hair done for my wedding day, do I have to pay for bms too?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Are you requiring them to have their hair done professionally also? If not, then no, that’s their choice. If you are, and they’ve paid for their own dresses, I wouldn’t- it can get expensive. Some people do require it, so it’s just personal opinion and what your BMs are okay with.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

No, you aren’t required to pay for your BMs

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Only if a professional hairstyle is mandatory.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2009

i did but only because i did it as part of their gift. if you dont care what their hair looks like then no you dont. but if you want everyone to have the same look then yes.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you aren’t requiring it then nope! I’m not requiring it and I’m not paying for my girls. Half of them are getting it done professionally and the other half don’t care, but it’s your day so you should look extra special anyway 🙂

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m going back and forth with this!! I want to be able to pay for my girl’s hair but realistically I just don’t think I can do it. The cheapest I have been able to find someone is for $50 an updo. (Is that normal?) I feel guilty because I want to get them done bc my girls have paid for all of their dresses but I just don’t think I’m going to be able to afford it. I’m getting them gifts….

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I paid for my bm’s hair to be professionally done. I also paid for their mani/pedi’s.  It was on top of their gifts already. I just thought it was a nice gesture.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We are paying for our bm’s hair and makeup–but made it very clear initially that they did not have to get it done if they didn’t want to, or that they could go elsewhere and pay themselves. My stylist and makeup artist are coming to the hotel in the morning to take care of everyone–but I know that sometimes people are funny about having their hair done by someone new, or even having their makeup done at all…

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It all depends if you want them to have a certain hair style then yes you should pay for their hair. If no certain hair style than no. I didn’t pay for my BM’s hair. I just let them know I was getting my hair and make up done if they wanted it done they could.  All but one who just had her hair done a day before got their hair and make up done the same time I did

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

i concur with the PPs who say you should pay only if you are requiring its done. I struggled with this as i REALLY wanted my BMs to get their done and so i was waiting till the last minute to see if i could swing paying for them.  In the meantime though i had told them it was their choice and what the costs were.  Turns out 3 of 4 of them wanted to get their done anyway and so were willing to pay.  I was still hoping to surprise them, but just had no extra money.  The 4th Bridesmaid or Best Man did not, but she did her hair on her own and it looked professional!  so i was happy with the turnout.  

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I guess I lucked up because one of my good friends is a hairdresser so she will be doing everyone’s hair for nothing. I will still give her something but it won’t cost me an arm and a leg.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yeah, you only have to pay to have it done if you’re requiring them to have it professionally done. So if you’re a little more relaxed on the hairstyle you want them to have, no worries! 

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper

Well, you can always invite them along. If it’s not mandatory that they get their hair done professionally, you don’t have to pay for it, but you could always offer to make them an appointment if they’d like to get it done with you. Just make sure they know that it’s totally up to them and let them know an approximate cost. 

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