Post # 1
We have been engaged for almost 7 months! We just picked a wedding date… oct 5th 2013. it was a hard decision abd my Fiance did’nt have any imput other then ‘whenever you want it’.
now, that we have finally locked down a date, we are starting to look at venues and differnet area to have our wedding. Both of our indecisive natures together is a bad mix… I don’t know what i want for a wedding and neither does he…
I know I really want as little work and stress as possible and just want to put a dress on and get married. between trying to make a guest list, flowers ,decor, money, caterers…ect. I’m just stressed out making a decision and Fiance just tells me to do whatever I want. that makes me so mad….because its not just my wedding!
ugh…sorry this is more a rant. I HATE WEDDING PLANNING.
Post # 3
Elope…haha. I know I have already said that in another thread, but sometimes it is the best situation. Just pick up and get married somewhere, like Hawaii. Sounds good to me.
Post # 4
Oh hun don’t stress my Fiance is the same way, I’ll ask questions and he’s like I don’t care whatever you want. It does get frustrating b/c you’re not marrying yourself it’s their wedding as well. I have found it best to pick a few options you love and then run it by them once it’s in front of them and they see it they have more opinions.
Post # 5
Well if you aren’t concerned about having a lot of people attend I would say go for a destination wedding. Then just find a place that will take care of all the details so all you really have to do is show up.
(There may be more involved in a Destination Wedding than this. This is just what I imagine when I am tired of planning and dream that I had gone this route instead.)
Eloping does seem like an excellent alternative as well.
Post # 6
Aw, well look at the bright side: He could be extremely opinionated and want things that you definitely DO NOT want or vice versa. An easy going nature while planning is probably a good thing! I agree with the PP—if you can find a couple of options, and ask him then, maybe he’ll be able to narrow down his thoughts.
Post # 7
One of the reasons why I decided to get married at an all-inclusive resort is because of the stress! It’s hard enough with the little I have to figure out, I couldn’t imagine my state of mind in planning a “real” wedding! A thought is to have you and your Fiance save the planning for a certain day of the week only to make it easier, like every Thursday or Saturday.
Post # 8
@jules28: So true! My Fiance wants a red suit. And while I really want to say no, I also feel really bad saying no because he had no say in what dress I picked…
So OP count your blessings! I’ll trade you a “red suit” for a “whatever you want”.
Post # 9
Think of it this way: if neither of you have strong feelings about stuff, and both of you are flexible, then being “indecisive” can actually be turned to your advantage and help you have an affordable wedding.
A lot of times (not always, but often) part of what drives the cost of a wedding upwards is that people will have a very specific vision in mind that they are trying to realize: we must have these exact colors, these exact flowers and not those, this venue, etc., and it gets expensive because if you have something very specific in mind and nothing else will do, then you have to be prepared to pay the asking price for what you want.
If you and Fiance don’t have anything set in stone that you must have, then you are free to just do some looking around at what’s available and opt for whatever you find that is acceptable to you both and affordable. Up to a point, being indecisive is very stressful, I agree, but if you can turn it to your advantage, it can actually help you get through the wedding planning with a lot less fuss.
Post # 10
Elope, OR if you didn’t want to go that route you should hire a wedding planner. Give him/her your budget, a general idea for the “feel” you’re going for and let them go to town. They can come up with ideas which you can veto or agree to and make the planning process much simpler. Plus, that way you get to be a guest at your own wedding. You get to just put on the dress and show up.
Getting a wedding planner was the BEST decision my husband and I made. We got to celebrate with all our friends and family and didn’t have to worry about a thing.
Post # 11
Haha… my fiancé SAYS that I should choose whatever I want but then he has opinions on EVERYTHING. I understand your frustration!
Post # 12
Hey–date twin! I understand. I’m not stressing too much yet because we’ve still got some time. Take a deep breath! My Fiance was doing the same thing at first–letting me make all the decisions and not offering any input. We talked about it, and he actually thought he was doing me a favor and assumed that I would want to make all of the decisions. When I told him I wanted more input from him, he started voicing his opinions.
We’re planning from out of town (we live halfway across the country from most of our family) and a few ways we’re making it less stressful: 1) only having 25 or so people on the guest list 2) having the wedding at a venue that does the ceremony and the reception/catering (just a dinner party, so we don’t have to think about it much yet) and 3) making a big decision not to sweat the small stuff. Flowers and decor are just not big priorities for us–we chose a pretty lakehouse to get married in, and that’s decor enough! I don’t know if any of that would be helpful for you at all, but don’t worry! We’re over a year out! Plenty of people plan weddings in much less time.