Post # 1
I know I shouldn’t be worried but I think I am freaking out! I am getting worried no one is going to show up at our wedding. So far I have only received RSVPs for about 75 people out of a 160-175 projected guest list. The deadline for the RSVPs was April 25, I don’t mind getting them after the date because I understand people can forget but I am worried they think it’s too late and they won’t show up. I have paid of about 120 guest, chairs, tables, linens, drinks, the food I can adjust quantity up to a week before but how will I know I have enough if I only know for sure 75 people will attend. I mean not even my family who lives in the same area, which I know for sure are coming have sent in their RSPVs.
I am so scared of having a whole bunch of empty tables and chairs at my reception, my worst fear. On top of that, we bought the sodas/drinks this weekend and I think we got too much. We bought it in bunk, great deal By The Way. We bought about 80 2L bottles of soda, is that enough?
Ok I have to breath now. OMG I only have 32 days!
Post # 3
I would start calling! 5 to 10 parties a night. Just simple explain that you have numbers due to the caterer,etc and it’s important to know who will be attending.
Post # 4
I know this will probably be a huge pain, but I think you need to call everyone who has not RSVPed and ask if they are coming. While it may take a while and be annoying, it will save you a lot of grief in the long run. It’s better than not knowing! That way you can be prepared for how many are actually coming and how much of everything you will need!
Post # 5
I agree you should start calling. This will also ease your mind. Split up the list though. Ask your parents to call their family and friends, his parents to call theirs and each of you call your own guests. This will make it easier for you and no one person will have to make 100 calls!
Post # 6
Take a deep breath, drink a glass of water, and take a look at the following related thread: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/rsvp-follow-up-email
If I were you I would start by calling or e-mailing the people whom you "know" are coming but whose RSVPs you have yet to receive. Once you have a firm yes from these people, maybe you can enlist a couple of friends (your mother? MOH? BMs?) to help you contact other people who have not yet RSVPed.
Let us know how it goes!
Post # 7
Get your list of people who have not rsvpd and give your parents the list of their friends or family to call and ask if they will attend or not. Same goes with fiances side. I would be stressed out too. Get the parents on it and you will get some response I guarentee it!
Post # 8
p.s. we have the same wedding date!!! My deadline for rsvps is this friday, I know I will have to sic the parents on the people that have not rsvpd by then, and then I will be emailing late rsvper like crazy!
Post # 9
Thanks, ladies. I will post something on myspace since most everyone is on there and then I will make my list. Thank again, I feel better now that there is a plan.
Post # 10
I agree it’s time to start calling and I really think it should be split up between several of you as someone earlier mentioned. This shouldn’t fall on all your shoulders. Divy it up between both sets of parents, your Fiance and yourself and maybe even a few bridal party members who would feel comfortable calling friends or relatives.
Good luck! I think you’ll feel much better once you get the calls out and start getting answers.