I feel this way. I feel like….people who are normally sane have lost their minds? And the insane people in my life are really leaning into that.
my mother asked me what I would think about her wearing this dress: https://www.eshakti.com/shop/Dresses/Elastic-waist-chiffon-blouson-maxi-dress-CL0060856
my mother is not usually a completely insane person. This is the completely appropriate dress she thought might “compete” with my dress (bc my dress has flower embroidery on it): https://www.macys.com/shop/product/calvin-klein-lace-sheath-dress?ID=7654794&CategoryID=80924#fn=sp%3D1%26spc%3D92%26ruleId%3D78%26searchPass%3DexactMultiMatch%26slotId%3D55
My friend said it would cost too much for him and his wife to attend so what did I think about him and his son. Which is the same amount of plane fare and included the issue that children aren’t invited to our ceremony, which he already knew. He’s a normal guy and he’s a close friend. he later got sane and decided it would be just him, but like…people keep pulling me into their crazy moments early before they wise back up again. and it makes me feel infected with crazy.
my father lost his mind at one point in the fall about what would happen if my cousin and I got married on the exact same day because we didn’t check in and his only brother (who is almost certainly not coming to my wedding) couldn’t come. My cousin is getting married in August. I’m getting married in april. My brother on the other hand is getting married in august, the week after my cousin, my dad has not said a thing to him.
My in laws…well I can’t even. Early on in wedding planning my Father-In-Law told me that my preferences were “meaningless and vacuous”. He also is still trying to get permission to use a camera during our ceremony, which I have banned and I reluctantly agreed to letting him do the reception if he gets in no one’s way. This is a man who once slammed on the brakes while driving in the middle of the night to take flash photos out the window of stangers having a party in their garage and front lawn. He never said a word to them, they were quite startled. as were the 3-4 cars behind him who had planned to drive down that street.
Anyway, its not been a lot of fun. I keep pointing out we still have a window to elope in. One of my mantras is “no extra work”. We’re ditching any fiddly details that people might choose to have a wedding, and if something isn’t a big deal to me, someone else needs to take it or it’s not happening. Like blocks of hotel rooms or favors. I don’t care about these, these seem like lots of extra work, for marginal return, and I think everyone going is an adult, so if someone cares, its on them. That’s solving a lot of stuff- my mom started fretting about how people will find parking, and I said “great write up the instructions, send them to me and I’ll put them on the webpage”. You know for a thing she worried at me about for 45 minutes, she has yet to do the write up.
but yeah, I”m losing my mind a bit. Its nice to have friends.