Post # 1
Food was the most important aspect of our wedding and perhaps the only thing Fiance and I unanimously and wholeheartedly agreed on. We went with a rather expensive caterer (but worth every penny) and spent half our budget on JUST food and are beyond thrilled with our menu. So, we are sitting down (gasp!) at our sweetheart table in front of everyone (double gasp!) and devouring giant plates from our absurdly delicious buffet that our DOC will have brought to us.
Why am I boring all you bees with this? Well it’s so often I hear brides say they didn’t get to eat at their own wedding and it makes me really sad. I in no way mean any offense to any brides that preferred to not eat or ate at a different time, but I want to eat WITH and in FRONT of my guests. Is that wrong?
Everyone I say this to laughs in my face and tells me I won’t even get a bite because of having to talk to guests. I am looking forward to making rounds and shmoozing with everyone, but I really want to enjoy the spectacular dinner we have chosen for them. Of course I will have breakfast and lunch, but just because I’m the bride, doesn’t mean I can’y fully enjoy my dinner!
We are doing our first dance and father/daughter and mother/son dances immediately after our grand entrance and then the buffet will open. Speeches will be after dinner, before cake. Then dancing for a couple hours. Surely, the guests won’t be offended if we also eat and don’t run to them immediately as they are getting their food at the buffet and sitting down, right?
What do you ladies think? Or what did you do at your wedding and how did you feel about it?
For anyone curious, our menu can be found here
Post # 3
We did something similar to your plan (as you’ll see in recaps), we had a sweetheart table and we got our food and ate. We were NOT missing out on the food! A few people came up to us to say hello or get a photo, but for the most part we got to enjoy a few moments to ourselves while we enjoyed the food and drink. It was great!
Post # 4
The food at my reception is important to me. It’s good, it’s wholesome, and it’s being made by a family (Who owns a restaraunt in town) I grew up with. I will not sacrifice *anything* for that dinner!
Post # 5
the food is the most important part to me too. i’m inviting people who know me well, so they shouldn’t be offended when i say “i’m eating right now and i’d like to finish my food first” lol
my cousin did everything in the same order that you mentioned. entrance, first dance, mom and dad dances, dinner, toss, dancing, cake, dancing, bouquet and garter, dancing.
Post # 6
@LilDrAnya: **** right. Fiance and I love food, and over half of our budget will go on food and drink. That’s how it should be, IMO.
We’re having either scallops with chorizo, rocket, and pea puree to start, or a vegetable and goat’s cheese tartlet. Mains are either duck in a cherry and shallot sauce, or wild vegetable and truffle oil risotto. Then we have a selection of desserts.
Evening buffet is as yet undecided, but I want a selection of salads with wild flowers, rabbit and rocket sandwiches, and scones with jam and clotted cream, amongst other things.
Of all the things you skimp on… food is not one of them. Right?
Post # 7
- Wedding: September 2011 - Baby boy 12/2015
@LilDrAnya: Yes eat. We did and loved it. It was delicious. It was a good time to share with others.
Post # 8
The food at our reception is going to be amazing, so I too will make sure I take time to enjoy it!
Post # 9
@LilDrAnya: I don’t think this sounds ridiculous at all. I’m hoping I’ll be able to eat (sometimes I have trouble eating when I’m anxious/nervous and I’m sure I’ll be dealing with a considerable amount of nerves on my wedding day). I think it will help that we’re having a plated dinner, though … I doubt anyone will really expect us to walk around to every table and mingle while they’re being served and trying to eat.
Food was also really important to my fiance and I. We chose a caterer who is absolutely amazing, and I seriously want to eat all of the options. He runs a restaurant in town, and we’re planning a date night there soon just so we can eat more of his delicious food.
Post # 10
I’ve never heard of such a thing! If we’re paying for it, we’re eating it! Food is very important to us too, especially since it will be very small, so I am looking forward to that meal!
Post # 11
I’m eating. Don’t care what guests think.
I figure I’m gonna have all of cocktail hour to mingle. By the time dinner rolls around, I want to be able to just sit and eat. Mine is being served family style so hopefully everyone will be so busy interacting with each other and eating? They won’t even notice I’m not coming around. I am not doing a sweetheart table but I am doing a head-type table although it isn’t positioned in any prominent place.
Post # 12
Hell yes I will be sitting to eat!!
Post # 13
food at the reception is generally deliscious and expensive! I would not miss out! Plus I’m sure I’ll be starving by the time it’s time to eat since you’re going to be nervous and prepping and running around doing stuff for so much of the day. For me, the whole point of my wedding is to enjoy the company of my friends and family, but damnit I will eat!
Post # 14
we met with the chef in february to discuss our favorite things and now we have to wait until june for our tasting because they only use in-season and fresh local ingredients. i tried to schedule our tasting and my wedding coordinator laughed and said ‘yeah we’re gonna wait until we’re a little bit closer to june’. bleh.. i wanna eat now!
Post # 15
Yup, I’m with you. We just had our tasting and our caterer mentioned assigning us a waiter to make sure we get our apps and our dinner. I was like, do not worry, I WILL be eating. I don’t not eat. Not eating means shaking and not eating + drinking even just a couple drinks means totally wasted. Would you not eat dinner at a dinner party you threw? Of course not!
Post # 16
Yep, the food is what I’ve spent the most time on. I don’t care what anyone thinks I’m eating. Otherwise I will be a total train wreck and a huge cow( so will Fiance ) cause we both get hangry.