Post # 1
I have been with my boyfriend for a couple years now and I can honestly say that he is my other half! He has made me mold into the woman I am today! I am SOOOOOOOOO grateful to have him in my life. He has pushed me so hard to go to school and I went from someone who barely graduated highschool to pursuing science and getting into the number one public university! I am almost done with school and we both have been talking about marraige all the time. One of the difficult things about marraige in my culture is that my love has to propose to my family and me! It sucks I can’t have that nice proposal get. So I was thinking, why not propose to him! I feel that it would be a pleasure for me to do that since I feel this guy has made my life so amazing! so here is my plan:
His birthday is next month and I am planning to either go to an amusement park or ice skating and a dinner
I got a spoon that says “be with me…. for as long as we both shall live”
I want to give him this spoon with his dessert and the ring on the spoon
What do you girls think? I know he is getting my ring because he accidently mentioned it and then changed the subject quickly.
Post # 3
@butterflylove12: That sounds beautiful! Congratulations! Keep us updated 🙂
Post # 4
Hurrah! I’m proposing to mine, too. I think your idea is cute, and it’s cetainly safer than putting the ring IN his food.
Post # 5
@butterflylove12: What a cool idea! Post pics after the big proposal!
Post # 6
This is a great idea, all around. I wish you the best of luck with this! Keep us posted!! Also, don’t forget to take pics 🙂
Post # 7
To @butterflylove12: First and foremost… I see this is your DEBUT Post on WBee… so a BIG Welcome to “the Hive”
Let me preface my remarks by saying ONLY YOU KNOW YOUR GUY
But it isn’t something that I’d do…
Men tend to think differently than women (as women we forget this, or don’t understand it)
Where we we fall in love faster, whereas they need more time… but when they come around then they are highly focussed)
I wouldn’t be so eager to push that hard… I’d prefer to be in charge of my own life in a different sort of way…
Example – Exchanging Life Plans and then making up my mind on whether I am ready to wait for him to “catch up” to where I am… and if he isn’t of the mindset that Marriage is something he wants or wants it later on in life, then I’d know and be able to make determinations about my own life.
The proposal is a very important part of a man’s ego… like we think about Weddings, they linger on how they’ll ask the woman of their dreams to marry them
I’d be therefore very worried that you are backing him into an awkward corner… men hate to see a woman cry… so even if he isn’t ready to marry you he could very well say YES just to smooth over the awkwardness… and then later down the road back out of the relationship… the Quote “You made me marry you” that is heard too often here on WBee on Divorce Posts comes to mind.
So ya, I wouldn’t do it… I want to marry a man that wants to marry me… cause when a man falls head over heels it is one of the sexiest most powerful things on the planet… a man will go to the ends of the earth for the woman he loves.
And as a woman… that is what to feel, and know… not that he agreed to marry me because he felt that there was no way out of an awkward moment.
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All that said… I suspect you will go thru with your plan… so I wish you well.
Post # 8
I understand. I also should have given details about this guy but he randomly made a comment to me once about women proposals and that If I ever did that for him, he would be very excited. So I already had that idea in mind. But yes, other men don’t think this way but in my situation, I feel like this is going to be an amazing experience for the both of us.
Post # 9
To @butterflylove12: Then that is AWESOME
Having discussed it previously and him being OK is definitely HUGE in this situation
I know there is at least one other Bee here who did the same… and her experience was FABULOUS as well (she proposed… and then he proposed back… a day or so later, and with a Ring which she wasn’t expecting).
Sending you ~~Good Vibes~~
Post # 10
@This Time Round: thank you! I really appreciate it. I know its not very common to do this but I also asked him out too. I think I am ready 🙂
Post # 11
Your idea sounds lovely and very creative!
Post # 12
Oooh that sounds like a great idea. Keep us posted and let us know how it goes!
Post # 13
It sounds super sweet, go for it. Isn’t there a good old saying like ‘only ask questions you know the answer to’ (or is it a line from an old Bond flick… hmm…) it seems like you know the answers so go for it. I also think it’s ridiculous that some people are so dead set on it being the guy doing the proposing. Anything goes in my mind.
Post # 14
@This Time Round: aaww your post is so sad. marriage is a joint decision, how could it be that a man feels he has no choice in the matter? That would be pathetic in my opinion, if he said yes out of awkwardness. That reflects the character of the individual in my opinion, not the characteristics of men in general.
Post # 15
Congrats, that is so exciting! Marriage is truly a partnership, so as long you’re both on the same page and the guy can handle the potential backlash regarding gender norms, then it shouldn’t matter who proposes to whom. I love to hear about men who are so onboard with the woman proposing. 🙂 Can’t wait to hear the story/see some pictures!
Post # 16
I wish I had had the guts to do this! You go girl! I wouldn’t have waited so many years if I had the courage to do this! lol! I hope it goes awesome for you!