(Closed) I am his FIANCEE not “and guest”

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I think you’re over reacting. It’s just an invite. 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Both- although I completely understand.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Idk…Id be peeved!! My husband and I along with his sister and her husband were invited to his cousins wedding…but only one invitation went out…to his parents place and said “Our Last Name” family…uhmn we all live in seperate homes and have our own little families..Just like you are part of your FI’s!! I think both of your names should have been included…but maybe she didn’t know edicit and did it because it was easy?? I still think being upset is okay…just let it go soon 🙂

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I wouldn’t worry too much about it. I know I was in such a rush to get mine out that I cut some corners and put “and guest” when I knew people’s names. I doubt it was a personal dig unless she hates you personally or something.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I can understand why you would be upset. You are a part of the family the least she could do was have the respect to write your name and not and guest. 

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@SoontobeMrsA: Both. I just had to laugh when this would happen. We got an invite to a wedding 6 weeks before ours in which Fiance was called ‘guest’, and Fiance and I had been engaged longer than she had known her Fiance. Granted we were engaged for 2.5 years, but still, she had know my Fiance longer than she knew her own.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Sometimes it’s as simple as not knowing how to spell your name, my fiance gets “and guest” all the time because he’s got a weird last name. Also, he’s not my husband so it’s awkward to address. Until you’re married, you’re guest. Once it comes to place cards, you better have a name or else that is rude. It’s kinda grey area and not worth getting hurt over.

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Now that I think of it…maybe they are just writing “guest” on people’s invitations that aren’t married.  Even though you are engaged, and it would be nice to be included, maybe that’s just their way of thinking…? Trying to be positive, hehe

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: Try not to take it too personally. However, I would also be pretty peeved; for the engaged or long-term relationship couples we invited, we definitely put both of their names. But then again, you and I spend a lot of time on Weddingbee and have more tact. 😉 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@SoontobeMrsA: My in-laws suck, too. Just focus on your relationship instead of them. Sorry, honey. 🙁

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