Post # 1
I am indian. I am a women in my early 30s and still virgin. I want to break virginity with Someone i really love but unfortunately i have not yet met that special person.
I did not think its big deal but when i came in contact with foreigner Friends, i understood that its not common for them.
Is it Something to be ashamed to be virgin till early 30s?
Post # 2
34, still a virgin. I had my first kiss six months ago. Nothing to be ashamed of. I think the idea of being ashamed to be a grown up virgin is typically a Western (European-American ) idea. Just like you, I don’t belong to any of those cultures.
You surely know that being an aged virgin is a pride rather if you don’t belong to those cultures.
Post # 3
I don’t think it’s something to be ashamed of but also nothing to be proud of. I’m European and one close female friend was a virgin till her mid-20s and a male friend in his early 30s is also a virgin. There might be groups of people who think it’s weird but I think it’s just a personal choice that needs to be respected.
Post # 4
I like a previous poster don’t think it’s something to be ashamed of, but I also don’t think it’s something special either.
If you want to only have sex with someone who you are in love with and plan to spend your life with, that’s great. But there is also nothing wrong with having sex just for the fun. In the west sex has become accepted as something that is not shameful or sacred, so more people are freely making the decision to enjoy it before marriage. But there are also people in the west who make the decision to wait until marriage.
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre
There is nothing to be ashamed in being a virgin. Both my husband and I lost our virginity on our wedding night. Embrace your virginity once it’s gone you won’t get it back wait for the right person and the right time for you
Post # 6
Agree with PP’s, being a virgin is certainly nothing to be ashamed of, or proud of. Its just really not a big deal either way, merely a personal choice. Some day you will lose your virginity and then you won’t think anything of it anymore.
Post # 7
I actually know people in their 40’s who are still virgins. They just haven’t found the one to be with yet and not interested in a one-night stand. Again, being a virgin is nothing to be ashamed of. Losing your virginity will happen when you want it to happen. And hopefully with someone you want to do it with.
Post # 8
I lost mine when I was 36 and I am western. Waiting was often very hard, but for me it was worth it.
I am not ashamed to have been a virgin for so long, but nor is it something I’d shout about. But if asked, I’d tell the truth. I believe from doctor’s appointments that older virgins are more common than you’d think.
Post # 9
I’m not religious nor do I have a strict culture, but I didn’t want to have sex with somebody I didn’t love- not necessarily waiting until marriage, just waiting until I really truly loved and connected with somebody. I did find that person and we plan to get married. I don’t really relate to today’s casual sex culture. I would respect that you feel a similar way!
Post # 11
No, it’s something to be proud about.
Post # 12
rinko21 : no don’t ever be ashamed. It’s a blessing you’re still a virgin. Hold on to that as long as you can cause if it’s taken from you before you’re married with someone you love and trust and cherish, it wrecks you mentally and emotionally. It’s scarring. Truly. The worst thing ever. Good for you you’ve kept it this long!!!!!!!
Post # 13
No… You should not be ashamed for making such a personal decision. For as much as I think someone should not be ashamed for making the decision to have sex, you should not be ashamed for making the decision not to.
Post # 14
If you are talking about rape l understand and agree that those can be the terrible consequences. But if you are referring to merely having had sex with someone who turned out not to be The One then your comment is rather seriously OTT.
Physical virginity is not some sort of magical talisman which ensures the moral superiority of its possessor.
Post # 15
I was a virgin until my late 20s and I just could not find the right person to have sex with. I really didn’t want to do it until I was sure I was with the right person. And I’m from San Diego, California!! Very western :). Although I was happy with my myself and my choices, I definitely felt weird about it when dating someone new because there’s an expectation that you’ve had sex at a certain age, or that you’re going to be willing to have sex with a dude after a certain number of dates. Luckily my fiancée was incredibly understanding, totally accepted me, and I knew when the time was right. It’s certainly nothing to be ashamed of. It’s a choice that you make for yourself and no one can tell you you’re wrong when you make a choice about something so personal.