(Closed) I am Jazz- Transgender 14 yr old on TLC

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Do you believe Jazz is a girl born in a boy's body?
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  • Post # 91
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    MeandMyLouboutins:  Yep! Nothing wrong with not being attracted to vaginas and breasts. Some people just ae not wired that way.

    For some couples who are good with the transgender partner being transgender but also both clear that SRS or any other treatments like breast augmentations or hormone treatment therapy would mean the GG partner would not consider their marriage valid anymore, it can be a really complicated balance. Sometimes it works out. There are times when a husband decides the partnership is too important, and puts off feminine expression. Not every trans person does fully transition. Sometimes people can surprise themselves with what they can find sexy if they give themselves permission to experiment on their own terms.

    Some women decide they want to know absolutely nothing and see nothing of their partners’ feminine expression, limiting their spouse to places they can’t see, hear or find evidence of later. Sometimes that works for years or even decades. Sometimes that is all the expression their femme side needs. Sometimes a person can’t deal with the idea they have to hide that part of them another second, and even though they love their partner they have to leave them in order to feel like a real person instead of a fake wooden toy. Sometimes all the love in the world couldn’t help save a marriage.  

    Post # 92
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 1996

    WhatMaeBee:  There are plenty of men who are attracted to trans women. Some of them consider themselves straight, some consider themselves bisexual or pansexual. Some of them are not cisgender. Who your husband is or is not attracted to is not a valid indication of anyone else.

    Post # 93
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    WhatMaeBee:  so because Caitlyn Jenner is trans, she must also be a pervert that wants to molest your children in a restroom? This is so ignorant, I can’t even. And frankly, it’s no one business what genitalia happens to be in a closed bathroom stall. 

    Post # 94
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Oh my gosh. I just read the david reimer story. It was the saddest thing I have ever read. Since this story was so tragic I think it supports the belief  that people should not pick what their children are and if they are in a situation where it’s absolutely necessary(and only then, like if the poor baby was born hermaphrodite) there is testing to find out what the child will be. I pray for anyone in this very delicate situation and I do not wish this on anyone either by their own choice or decided for. 

    Post # 95
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Newly_MrsA:  I actually never said anything about a trans being a pedophile, I didn’t even think it. That was simply someone else assuming.  I don’t feel that way at all. But thanks. 

     

    I also understand that obviously my husband’s perspective is not the perspective of every single man on earth, however, if I were to poll my entire family, friends’ husbands, males I work with, I know them well enough to know they wouldn’t get down with it. I know as a woman, if never be attracted to someone who wasn’t naturally a man. I’m done replying to this thread since everyone likes to take a statement and run to the moon with it. 

    Post # 96
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    WhatMaeBee:  “Should Caitlyn Jenner enter the women’s bathroom, possibly with young children…I don’t think so. “

    So, what do you mean by that comment then? If you weren’t implying that she may be a pedophile, just based on the fact that she is transgender, then what were you implying? What other reason would you have for why Caitlyn Jenner should not be in a women’s washroom when children are there? Just curious. 

    Post # 97
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Karie:  because if I had a young child, I’d rather not explain why a the nice lady has an Adam’s apple…. Or have any conversation like that. I’d rather not have any kid exposed to it. 

    Post # 98
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    901 posts
    Busy bee

    bgswifey:  I don’t know the actual treatment for children born with both parts. I have heardof doctors wanting to wait a few years for the child to develope morebefore making a decision between either or.

    Post # 99
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    WhatMaeBee:  While finding a man that is ok with a transgender woman is certainly more challenging than the typical challenges of finding a  compatible partner, you have to consider that polling your family, friends and coworkers will be representative of your particular community’s cultural norms,religion, etc, in some cities and towns it would be easier to find and where it isn’t that “crazy or odd”. By chance, albeit in a very liberal city, I lived with a bi-woman who had a boyfriend (born a woman) and that didn’t warrant more than a “huh, interesting” from me or my other roommates.

    We can only hope that over time, your discomfort, judgements etc will be less of the norm in society as more people come out and find acceptance.

    Post # 100
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    901 posts
    Busy bee

    WhatMaeBee:  If you’re child is out in the world, they’re going to get exposed to many things beyond your control. When I was in elementary school a friend of mine was sexually assualted and was sent to a mental health facility afterward in order to deal with it. I didn’t even know what regular sex was then, but my friend saught comfort in me, and so I was exposed to the traumatic experience of the after math of rape whenI was 12. It’s not ideal, but children are exposed to many things once they leave your house, and there’s not controlling what they’ll see. Seeing a woman with an adam’s apple is probably something a child would even notice. How many kids even know what an adam’s apple even is?

    Post # 101
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    sept22insf:  I agree with you… Fwiw myself and my family are all native New Yorkers (Long Island),though I come from a predominantly conservative circle/family. 

    Post # 102
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    buzzedoffbee15:  I teach in one of the most dangerous and poor areas of NYC. I know all you just said. The adams Apple was just an example of a question that might arise. 

    Post # 103
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    901 posts
    Busy bee

    sept22insf:  Also people’s sexuality will surprise you. You think because you know someone and that you can kind of generally figure out what they’re sexual preference is, but that is a lot harder than you think. I was friends with this one guy for years, thinking he wasgay buy turned out he’s bi. I’m bi to, so it’s not like I didn’t know bisexuality was a thing and confused him for gay. I just only saw him date, and be attracted to guys, then he dated a girl and I was stunned. Also before my Fiance, I was talking to this one guy and was considering dating him then he toldme about this weird fetish and that was a no go. Point his, people’s sexualities are complicated, and are more surprising than you’d think.

    Post # 104
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    Bumble bee

    WhatMaeBee:  I would imagine that forcing a transgendered individual who is dressing like a man into a women’s bathroom is going to cause WAY more questions for a child than an adams apple.

    Post # 105
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    Helper bee

    sporkette:  Karenina:  I think the concern is not that transgender people are pedophiles, and but that actual pedophlies could pretend to be trans to fulfill their fetishes. In the bathroom scenario they’d pretend to be the opposite sex to spy on/molest/whatever kids are in the bathroom. Not saying it’s right or wrong, just pointing out that the arguments I’ve seen are not actually calling transexuals pedophiles. 

    Has anyone read “Dress Codes” by Noelle Howey? It’s about a girl whose dad came out as transsexual when she was a teenager I believe. 

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