(Closed) I am miserable in my job and FI and I JUST bought a new house…what to do?

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
2095 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Unless you have another job lined up I wouldn’t do it. The market is so bad right now people are without jobs for a year or more in some cases.

Post # 6
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

I would tough it out until you can get something else. The job market is really tough right now, and I wouldn’t feel comfortable without having something else lined up. 

Also, if you’re entitled to time off, just ask him for the day off. You absolutely, in no way have to tell him what you need the time off for. That way he can’t tell you to cancel whatever plans you have to get something done for him. As long as you give ample notice and he approves the time off, you’re fine. Just try to send him a reminder email or put something in his calendar to remind him that you have the day off.

Post # 7
382 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

Can you start looking for a new job while still in the bad job? I can see it might be hard to leave the office to go to interviews, but it sounds like it would be worth it. Quitting before having another job is really risky.

Post # 8
7693 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@Mrs.DsBeeloved:  I was out of work for most of the last 2 years.  Don’t quit until you have another job.  I have been in your situation more than once.  Network and find another job before you leave this one.  Best Wishes!

Post # 10
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

How are you finances right now?  Do you pay your own bills or do you combine them with FI?  If you pay your own bills, it isn’t right for you to quit your job without discussing it with him.  I don’t think there is any way you should quit right now unless your Fiance is 100% okay with it and you two can afford to live on his salary alone for the foreseeable future.  There is no guarantee that you will find a job so you don’t want to be living off savings or going into debt just to live.  I know it sucks but a lot of us have been there.

Sorry was posting as you were posting replies.  I would just take the time you have and go to interviews.  If they give you PTO, it is your right to take it and he can just deal with it.

Post # 12
2539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Do you think you Fiance could cover the expenses for 1 month while you look for a new job? I would consider that. I would never stay at a job where I am misereble…however I would consider having a meeting with you and your boss.. maybe with a mediator present? I think he has crossed a few lines here… and I’m sure he knows that. Talk to your Fiance and see what he thinks.

Post # 15
13014 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Tough it out until you find a new job.  Apply for anything new to get out of there, but don’t quit if you don’t have something new lined up.  The market is crap right now, so you don’t want to shoot yourself in the foot with a new house because your boss is a jerk.  Good luck in getting a new position quickly!

Post # 16
2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@Mrs.DsBeeloved:  So sorry you are so miserable. Could you maybe find work as a waitress or something in the interim? I know that work will be easier to find instead of a ‘career’ job.

I only suggest this because this is what I am doing. I am absolutely miserable at my job. I truly believe that NO ONE should be miserable at a place where they work 40 hours a week. I have been applying for 6 months and I haven’t heard from anyone. So I am taking two serving jobs in the meantime until I find something. Ya it’s not ideal, but I will truly be happy.

My situation is different though since my current job is crap pay. I will be making more waitressing so quitting is even easier to do.

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