(Closed) I AM NOT GREEDY!! But seriously people!

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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546 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Seems strage to me.

We had 103 people and everyone but three got something.

Post # 4
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518 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

OK I agree with you that it’s weird that she hasn’t received any gifts in the mail either. However, I am going to be secretly annoyed with everyone who brings a gift to the actual wedding and would never do that to anyone. Do you know how big of a pain it is to transport 50++ gifts from the reception at the end of the night? My coordinator said that dealing with the gifts at the end of the night can be one of the biggest logistical nightmares of the wedding.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

We had a lot of presents so I can’t complain.  But my husband’s brother and his wife got us absolutely nothing after we bought them small gifts and my husband’s parents paid for them to stay in a beach house for a few days to come.  Also, it was after they spent over $100 on themselves in one night at dinner at a restaurant they chose.  So yeah, it irritated me (I mean, a card would have been nice) and I always get at least a little something but I guess people have different viewpoints on things.

Post # 6
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5988 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i was talking to my friend yesterday (im her Maid/Matron of Honor in Nov) and i was wondering if its because weddings are now such a big show/event that people (guests) are forgetting its also about the marriage and therefore it has a more party atmosphere than celebration of the couple???

Post # 9
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: I always send a gift with an accompanying card to wherever the bride specified on her registry or the wedding website. I never bring a gift or a card to the wedding. That is just an unnecessary hassle for someone who has to make arrangements to transport all those things home. It would also be a duplicate card for me.

If your point was that she didn’t get either a wedding gift or even a card from many of her guests, whether before, at or after the wedding, then I agree that that is unfortunate.

 

Post # 10
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6593 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I can promise that this isn’t the trend everywhere!

Every single one of our guests got us a gift of sorts (mainly monetary). I might add we did have a very small wedding (54 guests) but I also want to add that only 10 ppl were family and the rest were 32 or under. So the majority of our guests were young.

Post # 11
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3004 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

I know that as a broke person who can barely pay for their wedding there have been several I have attended recently who would prefer my presence rather than my presents. 

Post # 12
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2187 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ugh. I feel ya sister. My wedding was the same. I would never go to a wedding without sending a gift or giving money! I would never not write a thank you and I would never come over to someones house for dinner without a small something or other…

All of these things are my biggest pet peeve’s.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It is strange that your friend received nothing.  And I too would not attend a wedding without giving something, even if it is just a card.  However, not everyone was raised like you and me and most other bees.  The invitation is an invitation to share in the joy of the occasion, not an invitation to give a gift.  A gift is not required in order to attend a wedding/reception.  With this economy I think many people can’t afford a gift, and even if they can, like I said, a gift is not required.  Invitations don’t say “Don’t show up without a gift.”  

Post # 15
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@Mrs.ChubbyBunny: Does it really shock you though that when so many brides disregard the rules of etiquette or don’t follow them, that their guests do the same?

Every day here on the bee there are posts from bees complaining about old fashioned etiquette and announcing how they plan to change things, or complaining about having to write than-you notes.

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