It’s late for me so I haven’t read any other replies. I want to say, thank you for posting this. I guess it was how I was raised, but I’m not afraid to admit that I was angry…yes, angry…at those that brought zero to our wedding. Maybe it’s because 85 percent of our guests were my husband’s family. A family whom he’s done so much for over the years and was always generous to. How dare they show up without even a card to wish their cousin, nephew, grandson, well?
We spent money we didn’t have on our wedding. Yes, we did the big no-no and went into debt for our wedding. Call us stupid, but I call it “hosting a party”. Our guests were satisfied, happy…So what’s with the, as you put it, “walk in, eat, drink on our dime on OUR day and not give us anything in return?”
I don’t buy any excuses. “I forgot it at home”, “I couldn’t afford it”, “I didn’t think it was necessary”.
Forgot it at home? No problem, send it in the mail.
You couldn’t afford it? A 5 dollar card? (But you could sure afford that fancy new dress and shoes you wore to attend?)
You didn’t think it was necessary? So when are gifts and well wishes warranted? ST. PATRICK’S DAY???
This is a sensitive subject with me. I’m sorry if I offended anyone. But when you love your husband as much as I do and can see the dissapointment in his eyes, you start to resent the people with the excuses. And the fact that they are his family, make it so much worse.
We have learned our lesson. We will not be attending next week’s bday with a present, or next month’s anniversary with a present. But we’re still civil. We’ll bring a card.
As for hostess gifts at dinner parties? Absolutely. Usually a bottle of wine, if not more.
The day I stop paying it forward to those deserving? is the day I will start hating my reflection in the mirror.
The ones who aren’t deserving…who showed up at our wedding with zero… can call me Mrs. Karma.