- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
So I have 3 bm’s that are my sisters and my Maid/Matron of Honor who lives in another state and I have known for over 15 years.
I am not happy with her because you would think the least she would do is give me a call once a month to see how I am doing and if I need any help. She has offered to help out in the beginning as she knows she cant do too much being out of state but a min of calling would be a nice thought and support.
Some other things that I am annoyed about.. When I got engaged she did not send me a card or small gift. She is not going to get ready with us and use my makeup/hair person.
Now as a minimun what would you expect from your MOH??
Now, when I was her Maid/Matron of Honor years ago. I spent well over $1500 including (dress, flight, hotel, shoes, hair, makeup, gift, etc)
I choose to call her and check in with her to show my support.
I had to buy a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress Vera Wang that cost me $400 and I was just out of college and made like nothing.
I decided I could not afford to fly in and attend her shower, etc so I offered to split the costs of her party. Little did I know I was guilted into paying $200 and not even going.
I got my hair and makeup done with her and the rest of the girls so I could spend time with her and was expensive.
I guess I wish i knew that I could have not called her, told her I could not afford the dress and not be in her wedding but I felt bad and wanted to be a good friend to her.
I feel she is being a sh*$%y one right now I do not think she had any clue.
My sisters have stepped up and been very helpful so I consider one them my Maid/Matron of Honor instead but what could I say to her?
I was thinking of saying is everything ok because I have not really heard from you. If I contact her she replies right away but doesnot respond otherwise.
I do not think it is a money issue as she is a Dr and her husband does very well also.
UGGG… can I fire her???