Post # 1
My fiance and I live in a relatively small town and we’ve been together for 4 years, engaged for 2. In the beginning it was hard because although he looks great for his age (47), I still look kinda like a kid. (I’m 30 but I look in my early twenties). I try to make sure to always wear my ring and a little make-up.
He drove me to a doctor’s appt today and this woman said to my fiance, “Your daughter is very pretty.” Umm hello? We’re holding hands!!!! We don’t do much PDA because we both feel it’s mostly inappropriate beyond a quick little greeting kiss and hand holding.
I guess it’s not drama or even a huge deal. Just a little frustrtating.
Post # 3
ETA: Sorry–when I clicked this there was no text, for some reason!
Post # 4
@Ms.Shamrock: also lol at the dr’s office. You should have just started making out in front of her
Post # 5
I’m sure it is frustrating for you. But surely you knew this was a possibility when you decided to date an older man. You would probably think the same thing if you were the other person.
Why let what other people say or do provoke this response? Just ignore them.
I learned working in ER to never assume what the relationship was between two people.
Post # 6
I probably would have said something completely inappropriate like yeah I like it when daddy spanks me too. I’m totally vulgar like that. Sorry some people don’t know how to hold their tounge. You would think she would think how strange it would be for a man to be holding his 20 year old daughters hand and then put 2 and 2 together.
Post # 7
@julies1949: I do understand that we’ll always get raised eyebrows. But like I said, wearing the ring, little make-up, hand holding. Seriously?
I stood there kinda mouth opened and my fiance just said “Have a good night.” and pulled me out.
Post # 8
@Ms.Shamrock: Trust me , I have seen freaky Dads holding their daughter’s hand in ER. Name a creepy relationship- I have seen it.
Post # 9
He’s my Daddy, but I’m not his daughter (btw why is Daddy a “sexy” term?…it kinda weirds me out…).
On the flip side of your weird experience, someone once thought I was my Dad’s (trophy) wife. UGHHHH Gross…and they thought my little sister was my daughter. I in no way look older than mid 20s at most. And my dad is like 50 (granted he still looks pretty in shape for 50). I’m always very cautious about assuming what people’s relationships to each other are because of things like this.
Post # 10
When I was 19, a boyfriend gave me a giftcard for Victoria’s Secret. He went with me to redeem it, and when I came out of the dressing room with my final choice, he quickly rushed me out of the store.
Turns out while I was in there, the salesperson who was helping me approached him and asked, “So, you’re here with your daughter?” My boyfriend, SEVEN MONTHS OLDER than me, was dumbstruck and just shook his head. “Um,” she guessed, “your niece?” He stared disbelievingly. “No.” She gave him a disgusted look, muttered, “Oh, I SEE…” and walked off.
I totally wish your fiancee had said, “Yes, I certainly think so!” before full-on making out with you.
Post # 11
@mg1363:In German we say “Aunt” and “Uncle” instead of “Daddy” and “Momma.” Why? I have no freaking idea, but it sounds just as lame, if not more lame.
Post # 12
I feel you but the other way…..
My Dad was always young looking for his age and a few years ago I was having surgery… My dad waited in the waiting room while my mom and gma went back with me to get me prepped… When the nurse was leaving she asked me… “Would you like me to go get your husband now?”….. we laughed but it felt weird that everywhere we went people looked at us like we were a couple…. =/
Post # 13
It could be worse. My dad is VERY young looking for his age (praying I have those genes) and people always assume I’m his date or wife. When I was in college he took me to look at apartments and the lady assumed we were two crazy kids moving in together. GROSS!
Post # 14
I’ve been mistaken for my dad’s girlfriend before. Totally creeps me out, I’m 21 and he’s almost 60.
Post # 15
My Darling Husband is prematurely grey. He’s only 49 and he’s completely grey. I’m 45 and although I do have grey hair, I color it…I’m NEVER going to be old enough for grey hair!! haha!
Anyway, in December 2009, we had a professional photo taken of us together. He had it on his desk at work, and one of his employees commented that it was a nice picture of him and his daughter. DH thought it was hillarious. He told his employee that I wasn’t his daughter, I was his girlfriend. (We weren’t yet engaged.)
Post # 16
Totally relate. I am 27, Fiance is 29. He is balding, wears glasses and a beard and is going gray all of these add up to people thinking he is late 30ish. I am short (5’0) with chubby cheeks and young face, people often think I am in HS! We get dirty looks alot, or rather he gets dirty looks. But can’t do anuything about it but laught LOL.