Post # 17
I can see how that could be rude, but perhaps she did think it would be cute to get a jump on using that name? I am creating guest lists and am planning to invite out of town friends (and their parents, as I was very close with them). My friend’s mom is married but separated, and has been with her current partner many years. I asked my friend which name she’d prefer to receive the invite under, her current married name or something else. Turns out she’d prefer to use her partner’s last name, as she uses it socially but not legally.
When you’re unsure, you should probably ask! (Tip for others, not OP)
Post # 18
@reynaweddingbee: Nothing to do with weddings, but I had well meaning relatives do this on my son’s first birthday invitations. They’re hispanic and they all have two last names, so without asking they assumed that our son had both his father and my last names. Wellll, I am divorced and I never changed my name back. And our son was born in the US where most people only have one name as does my son. So all the invitations had my son’s father’s last name and my ex-husband’s last name on them! Whoops! His father was less than thrilled at getting my ex’s name slapped onto his own. But yeah, it would have been nice if they had just asked first.
Post # 19
@CakeyP: Just have to leave note that I got a really good laugh out of “Mr. Peanutbutter” I love that! lol
Post # 20
I addressed the invitation to FH’s cousin and her husband as “Mr and Mrs T HisLastname.” Their RSVP came back T HisLastname and S HerLastname (maiden name). I had a giggle, FH had a giggle, and we went on our way. She didn’t seem offended by our assumption, we weren’t offended by the correction (since it wasn’t aggressive) and now we know.
OP, it’ll be ok. I can see why you might be a bit annoyed because you aren’t married yet – that’s a little weird – but once you’re married, even if you do keep your maiden name or do some sort of combo, people will likely call you Mrs. HisLastname. I hope you don’t get upset about it.