Post # 1
Hello,currently I am in a long distance relationship with my girlfriend and we have been together for over a year.
She lives in the phillpines and I live in the states so our time zones are drastically different. I set my alarm around 4:00 am in the morning so I could talk to her before she sleeps. It’s just recently that I am finding it more and more difficult to wake up that early in the morning. Thing is, sometimes shes up and sometimes shes not depending if she falls asleep right then. So I get up around 4:00 to have the chance to talk to her before she goes to bed.
I have been losing the drive to get up that early. I am not even sure if I should get up at that time anymore since she doesn’t even call me until 5:30.
Post # 2
BlueHerbs : Do you get up early every day in order to try and speak to her, but sometimes she is already sleeping? I personally wouldn’t be able to do that. I would limit it to good morning/ good night messages in the week and maybe on the weekend have an actual phone call. Sounds like a really tough position. By The Way, not being able to cope with 4am starts every morning doesn’t make you a bad boyfriend as far as I am concerned.
Post # 3
Have you asked her?
Long distance relationships are hard. Is this worth it?
Post # 4
then don’t. maybe the relationship has run its course if she isn’t putting in the effort.
but if she doesn’t call you until 530. then it doesn’t sound like you need to wake up at 4am to call her???
Post # 5
Yes I get up that early every day in order to try and speak to her. I might just have to tell her I just can’t get up that early anymore and set my alarm for 5:00 am. I think if I set my alarm for then and go to bed just a little earlier I might manage that.
I wouldn’t mind just strictly a good night phone call but I am just the kind of person who likes to talk to my girl as reasonably much as possible. Yes LDR’s are hard but this is worth it and I am not leaving it anytime soon 🙂
Post # 6
BlueHerbs : I think suggesting a different time then / you getting up at 5 am seems a bit more manageable. Good luck! Hopefully you guys won’t need to be LD forever.
Post # 7
BlueHerbs : do you have set plans to talk every day at that time? If so, she should also be making the commitment to be awake at that time. It sounds like you already talk to her on the phone at night (your time)? If that’s true, I don’t think it’s bad to push back the morning phone call (if that works with her sleep schedule) or even skip it.
Post # 8
Thanks! Nah, we don’t plan on living on different sides of the ocean forever lol
Post # 9
BlueHerbs : have y’all met in person? If so, how often do you get to see each other?
I know that those talks can be important when you don’t get to see each other often, if at all.
Post # 10
Long distance is hard, especially with that sort of time difference. In the interest of making sure you both get adequate sleep, maybe it would be better if you scheduled time for phone calls a few days a week rather than daily? Then, take advantage of using your messaging app of choice (Messages, Telegram, Signal, etc) to stay in contact. Send each other pictures, random selfies throughout the day, stuff like that.)
Post # 11
Why can’t you call her in your evening/ her morning ? Or alternate . That’s what l do from Australia to the UK .