I am not sure what to do? Feel like I am a bad boyfriend.

posted 2 weeks ago in Relationships
Post # 2
Hostess
8962 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

BlueHerbs :  Do you get up early every day in order to try and speak to her, but sometimes she is already sleeping? I personally wouldn’t be able to do that. I would limit it to good morning/ good night messages in the week and maybe on the weekend have an actual phone call. Sounds like a really tough position. By The Way, not being able to cope with 4am starts every morning doesn’t make you a bad boyfriend as far as I am concerned. 

Post # 3
Member
449 posts
Helper bee

Have you asked her? 

Long distance relationships are hard. Is this worth it?

Post # 4
Member
9290 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

then don’t. maybe the relationship has run its course if she isn’t putting in the effort.

but if she doesn’t call you until 530.  then it doesn’t sound like you need to wake up at 4am to call her???

 

Post # 6
Hostess
8962 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

BlueHerbs :  I think suggesting a different time then / you getting up at 5 am seems a bit more manageable. Good luck! Hopefully you guys won’t need to be LD forever. 

Post # 7
Member
7482 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

BlueHerbs :  do you have set plans to talk every day at that time? If so, she should also be making the commitment to be awake at that time. It sounds like you already talk to her on the phone at night (your time)? If that’s true, I don’t think it’s bad to push back the morning phone call (if that works with her sleep schedule) or even skip it. 

Post # 9
Member
55 posts
Worker bee

BlueHerbs :  have y’all met in person? If so, how often do you get to see each other?

I know that those talks can be important when you don’t get to see each other often, if at all. 

Post # 10
Member
2534 posts
Sugar bee

Long distance is hard, especially with that sort of time difference.  In the interest of making sure you both get adequate sleep, maybe it would be better if you scheduled time for phone calls a few days a week rather than daily?  Then, take advantage of using your messaging app of choice (Messages, Telegram, Signal, etc) to stay in contact.  Send each other pictures, random selfies throughout the day, stuff like that.)

Post # 11
Member
8859 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

BlueHerbs :  

Why can’t you call her in your evening/ her morning ? Or alternate . That’s what l do from Australia to the UK . 

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