(Closed) I am not talking about my wedding. My lips are sealed.

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
  • poll: Do people give you negative feedback about aspects of your wedding?
    Yes when I ask : (5 votes)
    9 %
    Yes even when I dont ask : (22 votes)
    40 %
    NO : (28 votes)
    51 %
  • Post # 3
    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I actually had a friend of the FHs that told me the men HAVE to wear colored vests, and he has nothing to do with the wedding.  I have been being told what I have to do and what I can’t do since the planning started.  I just don’t listen, makes life easier.

    Post # 4
    352 posts
    Helper bee

    By The Way I think your ideas are awesome. And as long as you are happy with it and your FH is happy with it then that’s all that matters. It is your day… people just need to keep the negativity to themselves.

    Post # 5
    6394 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m rocking the flats, too! FI’s two inches shorter than me. While it’s a good height when I’m in flats, it starts to become an awkward height when I’m in heels.

    It sounds like you’re surrounded by a ton of negative people. I wouldn’t tell them anything about the wedding, either! You can always come on here and we’ll help you gush and look forward to your wedding :).

    Post # 6
    661 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I’m there too babe.  My mother, Mother-In-Law, Maid/Matron of Honor (though she means well – can’t say the same for the others lol) BMs, Family, etc.  I think the only one that is saying “Its your wedding you do what you want” is my father and Fiance.  lol (Of course Fiance says “our wedding” and “WE’LL do what we want”.  lol

    Yes, I want to wear BLUE shoes under my wedding dress.  And yes, my my Mother-In-Law AND mother will be walking down the isle.  And yes, I want the acoustic guitarist to SING during my ceremony.  And YES, I want to my cake and I plan on eating it, too!

    and I think your ideas are fantastic because they’re YOUR ideas for YOUR wedding 😉  You go girl!  Surprise the hell outta em!

    Post # 7
    7173 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Bravo!!  Seriously – I think we all get to the point where it just gets OLD and TIRED.  I honestly don’t think people realize how much thought brides put into details… I think they just think you are ‘thinking’ of doing it that way vs. thought through the why behind it (thus the negative comments or ‘helpful’ suggestions.)

    Everyone will have an opinion during the planning process – but, I will guarantee you – that come the day of the wedding – everyone will rave about ‘what a good idea ‘x’ was’.  Like the sensibility of your bridal flats! 🙂


    Post # 8
    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Two of the older ladies I work with have children planning weddings for 2012 and thus, they are now experts on weddings. My colours are black, white and pale pink and according to them black will look like a funeral.

    Oh, and only having a matron of honour will look silly, and only 50 guests will not be a proper wedding.

    I came sooo close to telling them to shove it today, but I just smiled and told them that just like their children are having the things that they want at their wedding, I will have what I want at mine.


    Post # 10
    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I only voted ‘no’ because I haven’t been given ANY feedback, negative or otherwise, I am she of the invisible wedding it seems 😛

    I feel for you though, when it come to certain things in life (like weddings, or parenting) people always seem to think they know everything about anything and that their perspective/opinion is the only correct one, which can be very frustrating.



    Post # 11
    1126 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    People have definitely given me unwanted opinions, but no one’s criticizing my choices directly.  I think it’s hilarious when people not immersed in weddings present these really common ideas as if they’re totally unique and original (which they are, in their minds), and I’m like, “yeah I know, I’ve seen a million pictures, decided against it for the following twenty reasons, thanks for the help.”

    Post # 12
    1331 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2016

    I’m sorry this is happening to you, too.  The other day an old pal was asking me about my engagement and wedding plans, and her reaction was odd when I said we are eloping.  It was very judgmental and hurt my feelings (especially when I thought she of all people would understand my many reasons for choosing this).  It really takes the wind out of your sails and makes you want to keep things quiet even if others are excited about it. 

    Post # 13
    3981 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    Not really. Unless you include my mother. I swear her and I have 150% different ideas on what a wedding is!

    Post # 14
    9029 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I dont give out much info about the wedding because I realize the less people know about it, the less i have to deal with their opinions. Everyone thinks they need to tell you how to do it right. Well they can “do it right” at their own wedding.

    Post # 15
    1077 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    No, for the most part, because I don’t say anything. My Future Mother-In-Law told me my favors were a bad idea before she realized that I had already made them. So, I guess I have one in the unsolicited column.

    Post # 16
    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I have a coworker who bashes everything that has anything to do with my wedding. It started the minute I got engaged.

    She bashed my ring “Why the hell do you need something that huge? I wouldnt want that….it would be too much”

    She asked how many people we were inviting and how much we were spending. “OMG….there are so many other things you can spend that kind of money – your not rich!”

    Bashed my dress. She is nosey. I had it shipped to my work becuase i didnt want Fiance to receive it,  “OMG….you going to wear it 1 day! That is just stupid, I dont know why people buy expensive dresses like that”

    I think she finally stopped asking questions cause she thinks we are being rediculous. We really are not though.

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