(Closed) I am not trying hard enough… help?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
46606 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

It is not your responsibility to make him happy. I would simply respond that “I understand that this is a stressful time for you. It is for me too. I won’t get upset at what you just said but you need to know that what you said was hurtful. I too feel stretched to the limit right now. I can’t wait until you are home and we can be together.”

Post # 4
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

He probably just misses you, but he’s being SUPER needy. He said your not being sweet enough? What does that even mean? If it were me, I’d tell him ‘I wish I could spend more time talking to you too… I can’t wait until you come home so we can devote more time to eachother’

Post # 5
5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

so hes out in 60 days, does he have a job/planned lined upt?  im wondering if he is stressed by the future and seeking extra comfort from you. doesnt mean this gives him the right to make you feel like crap but im guessing hes being needy and wants some extra tlc

Post # 7
1103 posts
Bumble bee

Maybe you need a day without the phone calls? I suspect he didn’t really mean what he said, he just snapped in a moment of pure exhaustion and feeling completely overwhelmed (I am someone who does that too, and I feel awful afterwards). Maybe a day or two with just a nice email or text so you can both just focus on what you need to get done would be beneficial. If he truly doesn’t think you are doing enough for him, he needs to be more specific in what he wants, and mindful of everything you have on your own plate.

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