(Closed) I am not trying to steal your son!

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015 - City Hall NYC

I totally understand.  I used to always say “you are not losing a son, you are gaining a daughter”. Good luck!

Post # 17
380 posts
Helper bee

I agree with 

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SLOBee :  

My DH’s mother and grandmother, especially the last one, are under the wrong impression that I am stealing their baby boy. Of course, I have never stolen anyone as DH was the one that actually wanted to put some space between them. However, as I started digging into these weird feelings (at least for me, because my parents had little trouble lettin me go into the world) I realized the reason two things: (1) his mom was afraid of DH leaving the nest because she actually used DH as a substitute of her partner (relying on him to vent, counting on him to discipline his brothers, asking him to emotionally support her, etc.); and (2) grandmother was afraid of DH abandoning her because she felt DH was like a second son of hers (she raised him since he was a baby) and given that she was alone (except for her only son, DH’s dad) she was afraid DH will forget about her.

I liked your letter, though 🙂 I wouldn’t give it to my Mother-In-Law, or anyone for that matter, but the feelings are there. 

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