(Closed) I am NOT your personal shopper!

posted 6 years ago in Holidays
Post # 3
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

no I think you have every right to ask that next year it be different. That would be super frustrating to me and frankly impossible with all the baking I do but while your out would you mind picking me up some of those shout color catcher sheets so I can wash the new quilt I made. I cant find them in our rinkydink town. Thanks! LOL jk

Post # 4
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1583 posts
Bumble bee

@Mrs. Mustang:  My mom is the you in our family. She had to pretend to be busy after November so it would stop. Now people think to ask earlier in the year

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

It is not unreasonable at all. If I were you though I wouldn’t just ask for those criteria to be met but stop doing it at all. They are adults and can do their own F*ing shopping! Sorry had a rough day.

Post # 6
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3692 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

If you don’t want to do the shopping, just tell them it’s not possible any more and leave it at that.  You don’t have to even give them an excuse.  

If you’re willing to do it, but only before December, tell them you don’t want to go to the shopping centers that late because it’s too crazy to deal with.  And they need to pay you first–for the items they want and compensation for your gas.

As for the wrapping, uh-uh, just NO.  You’ve already done them enough favors if you’ve gone shopping.  

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

by doing it in the past you’re telling them its ok.  just say you don’t have time to wrap and next year please give you a heads up.  that must be frustrating!

Post # 8
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2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I would introduce them to the amazing world of online shopping!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Being from NJ where there is a mall on almost every corner I can’t fathom this lol but I have a tendancy to wind up with my Dad’s shopping list for my Mom (thankfully haven’t had to buy my own gift lol) He is always upfront about what he’s willing to spend and gives me the money to spend, but it’s not always before December (in fact most times it’s a day or two before the event… like rushing out on the first night of Chanukkah for the gift for the 2nd night this year lol) I don’t think you’re overreacting, it’s stressful to head into the crowds at the mall, fight for parking, traffic, etc. You’re doing them a service and they should appreciate you for it and be considerate!

Post # 11
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@missrobots:  You beat me to it!! ๐Ÿ™‚  I used to live in a major city and LOVED having all of my favorite stores nearby. After marrying my Darling Husband and having to relocate, I now live in a very rural area of a different state, and I have to make almost an hour-long round trip just to reach a mall, not to mention the fact that all of my favorite stores now require a three-to-six hour round trip (depending on the store) to reach, so I seldom have the opportunity to shop there in person. 

I never used to like to shop online or pay shipping, but I do a decent amount of online shopping now, and I always try to wait for sales or free shipping or both. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Yikes that is very generous of you and I agree that you should ask for money and list upfront early next year.

By The Way who asks you to shop for them other than your parents and haven’t they heard of online shopping? A lot of stores have shipping deals around the holidays!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@missrobots:  thiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiis.

If they already know exactly what it is they want you to pick up (and wrap!), they can order it online. Next time you get that request, say “I don’t have time, but I bet you can find it on Amazon.com!” 

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@Mrs. Mustang:  no you aren’t over reacting. And no those requests won’t be out of line. I would simply send an email out like early november next year and say

“as you all know xmas is quickly approaching! I don’t mind picking things up for people as I have done in past years, since shopping is more accessible in our area. However, I have a few simple requests that would really really help me out ๐Ÿ™‚ . Please make sure you can give usme the funds in hand prior to us going to buy something. I would love to cover everything up front but it’s just not doable for us this year. Also, I won’t be doing any shopping like this in the month of december because with our schedules and the busy holiday season it’s just not something we can handle this year. So any requests should be sent to me before the end of the month (november). I do hope you all understand!thanks!”

I would have no shame doing this at all! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You are right!!!! Tell them if they want you to do the shopping they should tell you in Sept or Nov. because you dont like going into the store during the rush. You dont have money to spend when they could have given you the money in advance. It is only fair and respectful to not take advantage of your kindness.

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