(Closed) I am officially rude

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

Get them mailed as soon as you can. You just lost an uncle and your mum – there is nothing worse, IMO, than losing your mum. Anyone who wouldn’t understand isn’t worth your time. After my dad died, I could hardly get out of bed for a very long time, and had a difficult time being thankful for anything much at all. When my mum dies, I know it will be much, much worse. My heart goes out to you, and you are anything but what you called yourself. I wish you peace and strength in such a difficult time.

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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loudsilence99:  You have a year to send them out.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m assuming most of your guests are at least aware that your mom passed after being sick for awhile; that alone is explanation enough… at least you still are planning on getting them out.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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loudsilence99:  I am sure your friends and family will understand. Just get them out now! 🙂 I’m so sorry for the loss of your mom. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee

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loudsilence99:  I thought I read something on these boards that you have 6 months to a year to send cards out. And with your situation, you are definetly ok to have them not sent out yet. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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LilRhodyGem:  Not true.

OP, is there any way you can do address labels to speed up the process?

That’s not exactly etiquette approved either, but at least it will be one less thing for you to worry about.

Post # 8
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8674 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

Late is better than never, and as PPs said, most people will be aware of what has been going on.. the rest can just eat their shorts. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee

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LilRhodyGem:  
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Ckasnoff:  You do not have a year to send out thank you cards – that’s a myth. You should write the thank you card right after you open the present and put it in the mail immediately. Guests have a year to send you a present.

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loudsilence99:  In your situation, anyone who knows you should know what you and your family have been going through. I’d get those cards in the mail asap and take that guilt off your shoulders. With so many things out of your control, this is the one thing you can control. I am so sorry to hear about all of your hardships. Thankfully you have your husband by your side to help you through all of these difficult stuations. Big hug!

Post # 10
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Helper bee

My heart is absolutely breaking for you reading this. I’m so so sorry for your losses 🙁 

I think people will understand. When you can, send them out, but parroting other posters, people im sure know at least part of what you’re going thru and will understand. 

Sending hugs your way **hug**

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think you can send the thank you cards whenever you damn well please. 

I’m very sorry for your loss.

Post # 13
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924 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I think anyone who is close to you knows what is happening. If they are sitting at home thinking “that ***** didn’t send me a thank you” after the year you’ve had, they can go to hell. Now is not the time to worry about etiquette, focus on your family and your marriage and yourself.

When you’re feeling a bit more settled, send a thank you card to those outstanding for attending your wedding, and also for their kind wishes and understanding during this past year.

I’m sorry for your loss

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I am sorry for your loss, as well as all of the other hardships you’ve listed (you’ve really had a tough past few months! ) Cut yourself some slack, you have enough on your plate. 

I just recieved a thank you a couple days ago for a wedding I was in last November.  So you are not be the only one who was a bit late.  Better late then never.  Especially since they’re already done and written.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m so sorry for your loss! I’m sure people are aware of some of the troubles you have faced and completely understand. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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