Post # 1
My parents have blown up the guest list for my wedding and now that the invitations are done, they are literally adding new people everyday. My fiance, his family and I invited 100 guests. My parents have over 250 people on their guest list. I was totally okay with them inviting their family and friends, even people I had never met before, but now they are letting these people bring their children, nieces and nephews to my wedding. I am not concerned that they are adults, but they are not even invited.
I am so livid at my parents. I am refusing to send out any additional wedding invitations unless they stop inviting people to the wedding. If they push this any further, I may not even show up at the wedding!!!
I always knew this was going to be a big affair, but always thought we would have more like 225-250 guests. It has just gotten out of control and I don’t even want to be at my wedding anymore.
I am totally have a bridezilla moment.
Post # 3
Whaaaat? Your parents want to invite 250 *additional* guests? That’s crazy. You’re NOT being a bridezilla by putting your foot down there. Can you talk some sense into your parents and get them to pare down their list at all? You shouldb’t have to have a huge wedding if that’s not what you & your Fiance want (no matter who’s paying for it).
Post # 4
The majority of invitations are already out. I agreed to it, but I did not agree with their guests inviting their own guests to my wedding.
I just feel so overwhelmed. There isn’t even enough space to have chairs for everyone to sit at the ceremony.
Post # 5
If it was up to my mother we would have 700 people at my wedding. Its only right you put your foot down and take back control of YOUR wedding.
Post # 6
Are they paying for the wedding or are you?? My husband and I paid for our wedding, so we said that WE were making the guest list and we weren’t allowing other people to spend our money – if we didn’t want someone to be there, they weren’t coming. If your parents are paying for it, I would say pick your battles…hey, it’ll just be more people to have fun with! 🙂
Post # 7
@MissBMarie1428: Yeah, who’s paying for it?
And what kind of background are all of those people from? I know a Chinese friend who made about $10,000 profit off of her wedding because she had so many people. I’d say it pays off… another Russian friend of mine completely paid off her wedding expenses because the guests all bring substantial money gifts!
Post # 8
My parents are paying for the catering at the reception, but my fiance and I are paying for everything else. I would say the split is 55/45. The thing is they refuse to pick up any additional costs associated with having more people. There are only 100 chairs for the ceremony and 150 for the reception, my parents refuse to pay for extra tables and chairs. There are lots of additional costs associated with having extra guests. They’ve invited the equivalent of 2.5 more weddings.
Post # 9
Oh…nevermind then. What do they say when you tell them that?
Post # 10
They said they are paying enough money and act like they are doing me this huge favor. Early on in the planning process, I told them that my fiance and I had enough money to throw a very nice wedding for 150 people. If they insisted on inviting all of their friends, they had to pay the difference, which they’ve agreed to do.
I am just so incensed that they are letting their friends invite their own guests to the wedding. My fiance and I worked so hard to keep our list small and only invite people that were important to us.
Post # 11
Oh my goodness, that’s insane! If they aren’t picking up the costs associated with their additional guests though they are not keeping their end of the deal. They agreed to pay for the costs of their friends (guests) then they need to do it or they need to start un-inviting the North American continent lol.
I’m sure they are just excited and wanting to share your happy day (their happy day too) with their friends, but I’m sure being parents they comprehend a budget. You’re going to have to sit them down and let them know how happy you are that they are so enthused, but if no one can pay for these extra guests then they have to be un-invited. Sorry you’re going thru this, I’m sure it’s making you nuts. 🙁
Post # 12
That’s just insane.
I cannot believe it has gotten so out of control. You need to put your foot down and either change the entire wedding or find a way to pay for your parents’ wedding party they are throwing on YOUR wedding date.
I think as a soon-to-be married couple, TODAY would be a good day to show them that your are adults and are in charge of your own lives.