(Closed) I am putting my foot down!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Whaaaat? Your parents want to invite 250 *additional* guests? That’s crazy. You’re NOT being a bridezilla by putting your foot down there. Can you talk some sense into your parents and get them to pare down their list at all? You shouldb’t have to have a huge wedding if that’s not what you & your Fiance want (no matter who’s paying for it).

Post # 5
29 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

If it was up to my mother we would have 700 people at my wedding. Its only right you put your foot down and take back control of YOUR wedding.

Post # 6
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Are they paying for the wedding or are you??  My husband and I paid for our wedding, so we said that WE were making the guest list and we weren’t allowing other people to spend our money – if we didn’t want someone to be there, they weren’t coming.  If your parents are paying for it, I would say pick your battles…hey, it’ll just be more people to have fun with!  🙂


Post # 7
748 posts
Busy bee

@MissBMarie1428:  Yeah, who’s paying for it?

And what kind of background are all of those people from? I know a Chinese friend who made about $10,000 profit off of her wedding because she had so many people. I’d say it pays off… another Russian friend of mine completely paid off her wedding expenses because the guests all bring substantial money gifts!

Post # 9
748 posts
Busy bee

Oh…nevermind then. What do they say when you tell them that?

Post # 11
4 posts
  • Wedding: May 2012

Oh my goodness, that’s insane! If they aren’t picking up the costs associated with their additional guests though they are not keeping their end of the deal. They agreed to pay for the costs of their friends (guests) then they need to do it or they need to start un-inviting the North American continent lol.

I’m sure they are just excited and wanting to share your happy day (their happy day too) with their friends, but I’m sure being parents they comprehend a budget. You’re going to have to sit them down and let them know how happy you are that they are so enthused, but if no one can pay for these extra guests then they have to be un-invited. Sorry you’re going thru this, I’m sure it’s making you nuts. 🙁

Post # 12
2161 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That’s just insane.

I cannot believe it has gotten so out of control.  You need to put your foot down and either change the entire wedding or find a way to pay for your parents’ wedding party they are throwing on YOUR wedding date.

I think as a soon-to-be married couple, TODAY would be a good day to show them that your are adults and are in charge of your own lives. 


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