- 6 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
I have to start by saying that this is something that i have been feeling for the past year, but it is really starting to eat at me.
Fi mother has always had issues letting go, Fi will be 24 next month and his mother still thinks that she needs to do everything for him.
My issues started when we first started talking about getting married, of course rellgion came up, im catholic and he is baptist but doesnt ever go to church. We had decided that he was going to become catholic and that is how we are going to raise our children. Well now Future Mother-In-Law is holding a serious grudge against me.
the other issues have started because it is well known that i dont care for Fi’s brothers girlfriend (W). ( she had cheated on him last christmas,and i called her out on collecting her gifts from his family then telling him later that night) I know that it prob. was not my place, but i think of FI’s brother as my own. Well according to Future Mother-In-Law, W is just an angel and could never do anything wrong. a few days later i over heard Future Mother-In-Law and W talking about me, it was mostly W talking and Future Mother-In-Law listening so i went into the kitchen and told W to keep my name out of her mouth, and if she had anything to say, say it to my face, as i had done with her. and that was the last time we have talked. Its been akward but apperently i cant speak my mind bc Future Mother-In-Law is holding a grudge about that too.
There have been other instances too, but this past weekend Future Mother-In-Law made a remark that just isnt sitting well. We were talking about an approx. guest count, because she had decided that she wants to invite half of the neigborhood as well as her entire office so that there would be as many people on his side as mine (WHAT?!?) Fiance spoke up and said” well mom we are trying to cut the guest list down”. (i have a huge family, so we are trying to keep it to close friends and family) My parents are paying for the reception, which they are more than willing to do, but im not sure that they will be happy paying for 25-30 of her friends at almost $90 a head. …a little later she said, well i dont care, i just care that me, your dad, brother and W are there bc your brother needs a date!…my mouth literally hit the ground. She is really that concerned about Fi’s brother have a date, but never mentioned grandparents, aunts and uncles?
I know that this may seem very small, and that i may be over-reacting, but i really dont know if i should try and hash it out with her or not. I really just had to get this off my chest, and i didnt feel that i could talk to Fi about it.